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Benjamin Zephaniah "...are you controlling a woman?"

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Flatpackjackie · 02/05/2018 12:23

Interesting article. The ex's attitude is sad.

www.theguardian.com/books/2018/may/02/benjamin-zephaniah-admits-to-hitting-a-former-girlfriend

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LunaTrap · 02/05/2018 13:01

Spot on Dione. Even the OP is focused on the ex's attitude, it was a good way for him to deflect from his actions.

Spudlet · 02/05/2018 12:59

It's all a bit 'me me me meeeeee poor little MEEEEEEE!' I mean. His meditation, you guys. Seriously. How tragic for him. Hmm

DioneTheDiabolist · 02/05/2018 12:58

I find this article disgusting. He beat a woman while in a relationship with her and then, when she didn't react to his apology the way he wanted her to, he trashed her by implying she was stupid and unenlightened.

Nasty.

moofolk · 02/05/2018 12:57

Mate. Got in the way of his meditation. That's harsh man.

AngryAttackKittens · 02/05/2018 12:56

“There was one girlfriend that I had, and I actually hit her a couple of times, and as I got older I really regretted it. It burned my conscience so badly. It really ate at me, you know. And I’m a meditator. It got in the way of my meditation.”

You poor man, that must have been so hard for you.

Hmm
nauticant · 02/05/2018 12:55

Apparently the beaten ex isn't too bothered about it these days. Maybe that means it wasn't "violence" violence but was in fact some other kind.

LunaTrap · 02/05/2018 12:54

Maybe if he wanted to move on from being controlling he could have acknowledged his past without dragging apparent statements his ex made into it that will lead those who read it comment on her attitude rather than his violence. Let her tell her own version if she wishes.

Lottapianos · 02/05/2018 12:50

I agree Flora. His reflections seem to be all about himself, and the impact his actions had on his life,and how his hypocrisy looked to others. He doesn't show much empathy for the women he actually assaulted and imprisoned in their home

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Flatpackjackie · 02/05/2018 12:48

Ah, yes I hadn't thought of that.
It'd be a shame to think that BZ's attitude is flippant towards DV. I'm presuming it isn't though.

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FloraFox · 02/05/2018 12:43

I think I'd rather hear his ex's view directly from her.

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