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The Roots of Misogynistic Rage

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womanformallyknownaswoman · 23/04/2018 08:21

When one has been on the receiving end of it, it’s like the male is trying to murder(silence) women by destroying them, their lives and spaces in any way possible. They will not bear any woman denying them what they perceive, in their disordered thinking, is their entitlement - to sex, to access to children (as their possessions and /or sex), to unfettered free rein to use and abuse as they see fit for their own ends.

And new research suggests the anger, hostility and short fuse that accompany a man's narcissism tend to be directed toward straight women.
”Heterosexual, narcissistic men become enraged at people who deny them gratification, whether it's social status, having a trophy partner or sexual gratification," said lead study author Scott Keiller, a clinical psychologist and assistant professor of psychology at Kent State University Tuscarawas in Ohio.

www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=118736

From my observation and experience, I think its projected anger often. Many males are conditioned to believe that women owe them. Women are the ideal slaves in their minds. Somehow half-males' character hasn't developed sufficiently to separate out from the idealised slave to the reality of a separate human being. So when a woman says no, disagrees and/or rejects them and their behaviour, the misogynists can't contain that - it doesn't compute in their minds. Somehow their sense of self is immature and toddler like in the “Mum must give or I'll tantrum”. However adult male tantrums are extremely dangerous and harmful to women.

I’ve also observed misogynists have a lot infantile rage at their father, frequently because he is unavailable/violent/ gaslighted them, but the mother's the one more present and available to take their anger out on. She’s also most concerned with their wellbeing often, and is frequently emotionally available for them. When a child can’t take their anger to their father, they displace onto their mother. They copy their role models and it cements into adulthood.

This isn't the source of my supposition however is evidence towards it.

In their final statements, inmates express the most gratitude and sorrow to their mothers. This isn’t too surprising: studies have shown that nearly all death row inmates “have a history of parental abandonment, foster care and/or institutionalization.” Typically, the mother is more present than the father in their lives.

priceonomics.com/what-death-row-inmates-say-in-their-last-words/

The ones on death row are the ones who haven’t been groomed into covert abuse – they are the “low-hanging fruit” so to speak. The equally dangerous ones imo, from a societal and individual perspective (unless of course you have already paid with your life), are those who abuse covertly using coercive control, as we see in the latest thuggish behaviour at Bristol. They operate within the letter of the law, if not the spirit, and are enabled by wilful blindness on behalf of politicians, the law, plus its enforcement in its different guises.

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AngryAttackKittens · 23/04/2018 11:56

This is why I've always said, before you get too far into a relationship with a man, say no to him clearly and without any softening language, and see how he reacts. The men with the rage against women can keep it under the surface for a while, but if it's there simmering away then it doesn't take much for the mask to slip. Better than happens early on, and preferably in a public place, so that you can hopefully avoid it happening later in private.

Greymisty · 23/04/2018 11:49

I agree a lot with what's already been said and have had several experiences of these types of males. The come back from not doing the expected supposedly womanly thing even from girlhood has ranged from out and out violence to coercive tactics and manlipulation. There is so much societal pressure to suck it up, take it and not rock the boat.

Interesting to think it's projected anger due to the false belief that women somehow owe men everything. That theory may help women not take these interactions and altercations personally....wish i bloody knew that a few years ago myself. Live and learn I suppose.

ArtemisRhodes · 23/04/2018 11:18

womanformallyknownaswoman

Spot on. I think the vast majority of males in our current society have this mindset; it varies only by the degree to which they feel this narcissistic, entitled rage.

The current hostile takeover of women's spaces, language, womanhood etc is a perfect example. Women are supposed to show empathy, budge up, put males before themselves, give up their rights for the benefit of males, and keep quiet about it all. Our resistance enrages them like a two year old who can't have what they want.

Perceptive and accurate article.

Thanksforthatamazingpost · 23/04/2018 11:08

well done Laura Richards. necessary first steps and all that.

womanformallyknownaswoman · 23/04/2018 09:54

Whilst the law has been revised, in women's favour - that was mainly due to the efforts of Laura Richards, ex Scotland yard detective, but I concede that May at least listened to her and actioned her recommendations. :)

I think it one's thing to say it's against the law and another to actually secure a prosecution for a crime against women plus see her male offender(s) all receive an appropriate punishment.

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Thanksforthatamazingpost · 23/04/2018 09:34

"using coercive control, as we see in the latest thuggish behaviour at Bristol. They operate within the letter of the law"

no longer within the letter I think? I give Theresa May some credit for that (unusually probably!)

Thanksforthatamazingpost · 23/04/2018 09:34

very sad.

I have never been in a sexual relationship with this kind of man and nor have I been attacked.

I have however, together with another woman, issued civil proceedings against such a man and I recognise almost everything you say above from his conduct in the tribunals and courts to which we took him.

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