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Are you a woman in your dreams?

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MIdgebabe · 19/04/2018 07:45

Just thinking about what it means to feel like a woman. I am a woman in dreams involving my daughter and when I am being chased. Other dreams it is indeterminate or male. Indeterminate probably dominates these days but as a girl/teenager male dominated. Ok I have sometimes been inanimate objects also.

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grasspigeons · 19/04/2018 20:28

i think most my dreams i am me quite often the child me
some are just sensations of things where i am nothing at all

UpstartCrow · 19/04/2018 20:10

I'm not aware of my gender or sex most of the time, I'm just me. I become aware of my sex only when its relevant. Or when someone else points it out to me (you cant do that, you're a woman type comments). Its the same in my dreams.
I deliberately eat cheese before bedtime to try to get really good ones Grin

Pywife2 · 19/04/2018 19:39

I'm a woman in my dreams. My best dream was that I was a woman married to a pilot but when he was away, I would actually fly, in my own body not using an aeroplane. Only women could do this in my dream. You had a sort of feeling in the chest and then willed yourself up into the air and flew higher and lower, whatever you choose. Sometimes just above the ground but sometimes over the trees, which was scary but exhilarating. It was a secret activity, carried out by night.

I used this power to go into my neighbour's upstairs window and steal their biscuits.

Flying dreams are my favourite but I can't always have them.

MIdgebabe · 19/04/2018 19:35

I am always menin the dreams, .but in one repeating dream I am watching me ...male ..David..,hiding on the left and at the same time me ..female hiding on the left. Both at the same time behind a large yellow sofa in a hotel lobby. 3 versions of me.

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IrenetheQuaint · 19/04/2018 19:31

I'm always me and therefore female. Envious of other posters' exciting dream identities!

Juells · 19/04/2018 19:25

When I have sex dreams that result in sleep-orgasms

Some people have all the luck Confused

EasterRobin · 19/04/2018 18:44

I must be very unimaginative. I'm always me (so presumably female, but I don't really notice) or the dream is just like watching a scene that I'm not in.

colditz · 19/04/2018 18:37

I'm often a little girl, actually

BevBrook · 19/04/2018 18:37

I have had a few dreams where I am marrying a woman and suddenly realise I am a woman as well and not a man as I had thought, and wonder if she will be OK with that.

2rebecca · 19/04/2018 18:34

Usually female but sometimes male, sometimes my husband or one of my kids, sometimes a character of either sex in a book I've been reading. Sometimes an animal

0phelia · 19/04/2018 18:17

When I have sex dreams that result in sleep-orgasms I am always myself, a woman.

I recently dreamed I was Elvis Presley being buried alive.

In other dreams I've been non sex specific dolphins and birds.

ReluctantCamper · 19/04/2018 18:10

I'd never really thought about this, but very occasionally I have been male in a dream. How odd. Never had a penis though. Like a PP, I used to have quite epic dreams where I was leading a resistance against a robot army or similar.

Since having DC I'm too fucking tired to dream any more. I jump from deep sleep to wide awake so I never get that half awake period where you remember your dreams.

DairyisClosed · 19/04/2018 17:48

*Just to clarify in all those instances I gave an awareness that I am female, heterosexual, maintain my character and likes and dislikes etc. I am never not me and everything I see/do in dreams is experienced in that context. I also almost never have sex dreams. I would say five in my entire life that involved actual sex. An additional five or so where it was implied/skipped over. Readongvthe other lists I think that may be weird.

DairyisClosed · 19/04/2018 17:38

I am usually omnipotent watching myself getting up to things in my dreams. Occasionally I am myself. Very rarely u have dreams that I am not involved in at all (omnipotent).

ijustwannadance · 19/04/2018 17:36

I have never been anything other than myself in dreams. Although usually a better/more capable version of me. A bit more Lara Croft than unfit asthmatic.

heateallthebuns · 19/04/2018 17:34

Yes I'm a woman, but I'm always me. Sometimes me at a different age. Yes, I'm mostly young me.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 19/04/2018 17:24

When I was younger I was always an ungendered being in dreams. For the last 3 or 4 years I have been a lesbian woman Hmm they are not sexual dreams either but I've just been aware of being a lesbian during the dreams even though they have had nothing to do with that.

BrashCandicoot · 19/04/2018 17:21

The only time I've ever been aware of being a woman - as in, in a female body - in my dreams is when I've had dreams about being pregnant/giving birth, or the occasional sexy dream. Most of the time I'm just my own consciousness, if that makes sense. much like real life

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 19/04/2018 16:16

Only in my nightmares. The rest of the time very gender neutral.

KanyeWesticle · 19/04/2018 16:03

I'm just me. Usually gender neutral. Very rarely there's biologically female bits like pregnancy, periods, breastfeeding. Even in the terrible presenting a talk naked, or taking an exam naked, the body parts aren't really identifiable. I've never dreamt about classically feminine stuff like shoes/dresses/glitter/makeup (unless clown dreams count as makeup). I have had sex dreams in which my partner is always a male, and I'm always straight... so by extension, female.

Rufustheconstantreindeer · 19/04/2018 15:56

Weirdly i usually have longer hair

EBearhug · 19/04/2018 15:55

I am hyperphantasic, so have a very visual mind's eye. My dreams are usually very vivid and active. I am usually me, but slimmer and fitter. But sometimes, I am watching myself like it's an out of body experience, and I think sometimes I am actually someone entirely different, and then I might be male, female, indeterminate, really not sure. (Haven’t had a dream lie that for ages.) Think I'm always me in sex dreams, though.

TwittleBee · 19/04/2018 15:29

Usually it is just like I am watching a film in my dreams, trying to think now what gender often tends to be the lead character but I think it is pretty evenly split

OohMavis · 19/04/2018 15:23

I'm only noticeably feminine in dreams where I'm having a rather, ahem, good time Grin

Usually I'm just me. Actually usually a thinner version of me, who can run without getting out of breath.

Waddlelikeapenguin · 19/04/2018 15:19

I'm not sure i even have a body in dreams Confused & i dont see things either - i mostly feel sensation & hear things occasionally there are colours.... mostly it's an awareness of something