Are you a woman in your dreams?

I can't recall any dream where I've thought I was a man

I'm a woman, a heterosexual woman and I have had a few dreams where I have been a lesbian but never a man. I never change age in my dreams either - I always seem to be me other than sexuality changing occasionally

I went through a stage of dreaming I was James Bond. Those dreams were very exciting.

I wonder if dreams change with age, I'm both male and female, younger and older. Sometimes I'm a third party watching the activity sometimes it's first person.

They can be so realistic when I wake up the emotions can spill into real life. I am often very angry, and dance alot.

How interesting!

Always first person, and yes to the toilet/changing cubicle anxiety dreams, the cubicles are always too short and you can see over them and into the next one. I think that may be an actual memory of a childhood pool, though, I'll have to ask my mum.

I was looking at the children's diagnostic questionnaire asked by psycholgists to determine whether a child has gender dysphoria or not and one of the criteria is being the opposite sex in dreams.

Personally I've always been fairly androgynous in dreams and physically super human until I lose that strength when my teeth start falling out.

Presumably that means I am really a trans super hero who needs to see a dentist

I am almost always omnipresent watching myself or (very rarely) I am myself. I am never someone else.

I once had a dream where I was in an lift which had a mirror on one wall and every time I looked in it I looked like some one different until the last time and I looked in and I was this beautiful black women and I thought “yes, this is my real face”. It was extremely vivid and the feeling of recognition was euphoric, however reader, I am not a beautiful black women - our minds are extraordinarily but it doesn’t trump reality.

Interesting to see how many people are always their real life selves in their dreams! I think usually I am myself, but I can be all kinds of people. Of course in the dream I always feel like myself but I can be either sex or change sex in the course of the dream. I've dreamt I had a penis many times. Sometimes I dream that I am DP. Sex dreams I can be a woman or a man.

Obviously I don't think my dreams about being male or having male anatomy are 'accurate', but then neither are my dreams about floating through the sky, so.

I dream like EBearhug and I often flit between perspectives so sometimes I’m watching as a bodiless outside eye, sometimes I’m me, sometimes I’m other characters including males all within one dream. It’s often some sort of fantastical adventure.

I think I predominantly dream of myself as female though, even if it’s not “me” but when I do dream that I am male, it doesn’t feel odd.

I've heard trans stories saying they always dreamt they were the opposite sex.

I just dream I am me. Sometimes this has been a very female experience, dreams of giving birth pre-children. And when sex is involved. But mostly the gender of my dream character is as unambiguous as gender is for me when I am awake. I don't see myself as "woman", I just see myself as me.

I did have a very vivid dream as a teenager though which led to me being quite delusional for a long time, years... decades even. So, I understand the power of dreams to affect the way we think.

Such a good question MIdgebabe. Reading through all these responses illustrates just how ludicrous it is to try to pin down exactly what it feels like to be a woman. The fact is that we are all sex women (human females) and the other fact is that, as women we can feel like all sorts of things: men, cats, women, straight, lesbian, super heroes. So, I could say 'feeling like a man/cat/super hero is what makes me a woman' but it would be kind of silly and meaningless. My chromosomes make me a women, end of.

Yup to the unusable/exposed on the toilet dreams here too. I think I'm always just me in my dreams. I used to have tonnes and tonnes of vivid dreams and nightmares but not so much these days. I have dreams about starting my period in an embarrassing, public situation and have dreams where I haven't shaved my legs and people are pointing and recoiling in horror! So yeah, definitely in a female body in those ones. Occasional sex dreams, not often at all, but am always female in those. And am always sitting down in the exposed on the toilet dreams too.

Unless the dream is directly related to the functioning if my female body though I am not aware of my "femaleness" in the dream. I'm just me. Kind of like real life. I'm just me. The only references I really have to pinpoint femaleness are physical...

I have had many and varied dreams about being pregnant/giving birth though, it's recurring theme

I did dream once I had a penis, it was huge and a bit baggy and gross At the same time I also lived in a flat that had a Mexican takeaway kitchen in it

I've only ever had 1 dream where I wasn't me, but I was still female.
I'd never considered the filthy toilet dreams might be the brains way of keeping the dreamer from wetting the bed hestia, that makes a lot of sense.

Nowadays, they are horrible dreams as the toilets are always dirty - big piles of poo overflowing and filthy communal toilets.

Heh, I get that dream too. It is always when I need to go to the toilet while I'm asleep. I think my brain rationalizes the fact that I can't pee, so the toilet has to be too gross to use.

I'm mostly me in my dreams, but sometimes my life is completely different.

And I recall a time where I think I was a man. Memory is fuzzy, but I was in a heterosexual relationship with a woman. I think. Or perhaps just had a crush on her and wanted to save her from a monster. Or prevent her from joining the villain ...

I didn't dream about any sex organs, I just at one point in my dream realized I was a middle-aged man. Which surprised me because I know I am female. And then I woke up.

And I think in one dream I was Harry Potter.

Interesting point about those loo anxiety dreams - if I have the ones where I’m exposed on the loo, I’m always sitting not standing.

I am always me in my dreams and as in life, I am always female. Depending on what happens in my dream I am sometimes very aware of having a female body in dreams, sometimes not at all focused on my body, but aware I am me, therefore am female.

Yes, I am always me in my dreams. But I don’t have a gender identity in my waking life, so it is not there in my dreams.

I'm interested to ask DH if he's ever been a woman in his dreams now.

I'm always 100% definitely me. I'm finding the idea of being someone else or even a different version of oneself to be very strange, I can't get my head around the idea of watching a dream like an imaginary TV show either. My dreams are always first person and when I'm in them I can't distinguish them from real life. In fact I'll often state quite confidently in my dreams that I'm not dreaming "this time".

Some people stated that they dream in colour - do most people not?!

I've had dreams where I 'just know' I'm male. In one I was a van driver who'd lost his job and was being pursued by his violent former employer. Most dreams though, I'm me, and me = female.

I am always myself, I'm generally unaware of any gendered feelings or awareness of my sex unless it's an integral part of the dream 'story' or my physical body is involved in the dream (eg naked, having sex etc) my body has always been female but not always 'mine' interestingly. For example different hair colour, body shape, features etc.

I'm mostly just me in my dreams but I can be other people, male or female. Really interesting question OP!