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Dealing with inflammatory posts re Trans on MN

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womanformallyknownaswoman · 07/04/2018 17:37

I am concerned to see the message below from MNHQ at the end of the T thread. Regarding posts that I consider "goady", I have a personal policy of not feeding them, not engaging and not rising to the bait. I ignore them. OPs looking for conflict as a way to feed themselves won't get it from me. Firstly, it's exhausting-they are not interested in dialogue, despite what they say, and secondly the best way to deal with them, imo, is to starve them of attention and not rise to the bait. Don't give them what they want i.e. a fight and conflict.

My concern is I predict there will be a lot more new threads and OPs looking for a fight, as the public becomes more aware of the issues and the tide starts to turn against TRAs. They will want to try and get this Place closed down for discussion, and none of us want that to happen.

Personally I have found it empowering to learn how not to engage and to turn it back on them if absolutely necessary, by the use of ridicule and short rebuttals of their nonsense. I am happy to share some techniques if it will help plus learn more from others. There's no point in trying to score points and win all the arguments they make as it's the engagement down their rabbit holes they want - they literally feed off conflict. They're anti-social remember, so any attention is better than none. They want to keep you coming back and arguing, so they can derail, prolong, provoke and generally make life difficult for MNHQ - to force them to take action. The negative attention "turns on" those looking for a fight….so please don't feed them, ignore them and lets keep this place open.

Message for MN:

Hi all

Since this thread is getting near its end, this seems like a good moment to make a really serious point.

We've just made some more deletions on this thread, and we're pretty exasperated tbh - we feel we're running out of ways to say 'please stick within the TGs or risk losing MN as a place to discuss this issue.'

We're really proud of our commitment to free speech, and we put a huge amount of time and resources to enabling this debate to take place - as many of you have pointed out, it's one of the few places left.

To those who haven't yet been able to stop and look at things from our end of the barrel - please understand that you're risking this space for everyone; if you really can't debate civilly with those you disagree with, it might be time to consider that MN is no longer the place for you. We're sorry to have to say this - we don't like it one bit - but tbh nothing else seems to have got through so far: we're at a point of last resort.

Thanks to all those who modify their first instincts and manage to make their points in a calm, considered and civilised manner - even in the face of goadiness. We appreciate it (and so would Michelle.)

Thanks all

MNHQ

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thebewilderness · 12/04/2018 20:08

The Telegraph had an item yesterday about the investigation by NHS of crimes committed on mixed sex wards that ought not to be.

thebewilderness · 12/04/2018 20:04

The harassment laws were supposed to change this unrealistic attitude that threats and intimidation are not real crimes, and nothing need be done til physical injury occurs.

CisPinkHoodie · 12/04/2018 20:03

Mouthtrousers

So if gender is culturally determined, how is gender identity 'inate' ???

And shurely, shurely, gender is assigned at birth, whereas sex is observed

It's all arse-about-face

SimonBridges · 12/04/2018 19:52

Yes, there would potentially be legal redress if they did something unlawful

And this is what worries me.
We are going to have to wait until something happens. And we know that women complaining of sexual assault are always believed and taken seriously.........

thebewilderness · 12/04/2018 19:41

I am not quite sure, CharlieParley, if the peeps making these contradictory assertions are the deceived or the deceivers.
I suppose that is why MNHQ wants us to model the behavior of Michelle Obama's WTGLWGH.

CharlieParley · 12/04/2018 19:38

I mean the claim "after about three months"

CharlieParley · 12/04/2018 19:36

thebewilderness I must admit I'm rather disappointed how feeble these claims seem today.

Just read two studies, one on how many transmen continue to have periods and one on how few transwomen manage to suppress testosterone to female level.

So, not only is the claim false, it once again misses the point that 80 to 95% of trans ppl don't take any hormones at all.

yetanothertranswoman · 12/04/2018 19:35

As per your earlier linked information this statement is false, Sue0001

It is oestrogen and a testosterone blocker - which is the same chemical used for chemical castration.

The amounts of spironolactone taken may not be enough to induce chemical castration as if you take a high dose, that is potentially dangerous for your kidney.

It certainly does reduce testosterone to low levels.

thebewilderness · 12/04/2018 19:29

Are you aware that any transitioning person after about three months on hormones is either infertile in the case of a trans man or with testosterone blockers a trans woman is chemically castrated

As per your earlier linked information this statement is false, Sue0001.

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 12/04/2018 19:04

www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/glossary-terms

CharlieParley · 12/04/2018 19:03

Just popped in coz I wanted to know what seagulls have to do with FWR and it struck me how

a) wonderfully you've all dealt with the attempt to derail
b) how transparent the attempt to derail becomes when it is an almost word-for-word argument refuted just a few threads ago

and

c) I finally, really, completely understand the reason for this thread.

I originally disagreed because I only thought about how important these threads are in helping people, specifically lurkers and Googlers, help reach #peakGIT (as in Gender Identity Theory, suggested on the #peaktrans thread).

If we don't answer these TRA claims, that doesn't happen. But if we develop succinct and civil answers that would be enough to show the uninitiated that the claims can be refuted yet leave the seagulls starving.

Would this be a strategy that works for you as well, OP? I mean in addition to those you mention above?

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 12/04/2018 18:57

Gender – often expressed in terms of masculinity and femininity, gender is largely culturally determined and is assumed from the sex assigned at birth.

Abolishing sex means I will be assumed to be.... nothing. There are no words.

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 12/04/2018 18:55

Gender identity - a person’s innate sense of their own gender, whether male, female or something else (see non-binary below), which may or may not correspond to the sex assigned at birth.

I don't have one of those.

Gender identity - a person’s innate sense of their own gender, whether male, female or something else (see non-binary below), which may or may not correspond to the sex assigned at birth.

I don't have one of those.

Sex –assigned to a person on the basis of primary sex characteristics (genitalia) and reproductive functions. Sometimes the terms ‘sex’ and ‘gender’ are interchanged to mean ‘male’ or ‘female’.

So once sex is abolished I will no longer exist.

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 12/04/2018 18:45

I asked what the difference was between sex and gender and was told that female wasn't a gender.

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 12/04/2018 18:43

I went to diversity and inclusion training and was told that new types of sexuality are going to be added to the legal protections... I didn't like to ask.

merrymouse · 12/04/2018 18:39

I think their inclusion under 'the trans umbrella' does harm to transsexuals but in some ways strengthens our cause as women.

I think the problem is that arguments about AGP can stray into "being worthy of getting a seat at the lunch table" territory, when there is no lunch table.

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 12/04/2018 18:38

boatyardblues

Nearly wet my pants.

merrymouse · 12/04/2018 18:30

I wholly reject the proposition put forward that a man would self declare as a woman at risk of perjury with two years in jail to dress up to go in a woman’s space.

But how do you 'not live as a woman?'.

LangCleg · 12/04/2018 18:26

Sue0001 - what's your view on the best way to respond to inflammatory posts (in whichever ideological direction) here on FWR, as the OP asked?

uniquehornsonly · 12/04/2018 18:18

For anyone interested in the current thinking on AGP in the clinical and psych community, there's a good review here published in 2017.

Spoiler: AGP is not at a discredited theory (despite its unpopularity amongst TRAs), does not appear in natal females (despite the poorly-constructed study sue mentions), and explains patterns of behaviour that other classifications cannot.

boatyardblues · 12/04/2018 18:13

You know how if you feed the seagulls your chips at the seaside, they keep coming back for more and then start nicking your chips...

Sue0001 · 12/04/2018 18:11

I fully support certain women’s only spaces for protective reasons. I’ve used them myself. It was a privilege to be supported by such understanding women who like me had been abused.

I still think this debate conflates many issues in particular self-declaration for binary trans men and women and calls for gender identity to be a protected characteristic in the Equalities Act. The second would cover the majority of transgender and gender non conforming people and the former a minority of trans people.

Only Scotland is considering a change in the Equalities Act. Amber Rudd has already ruled out changes to the Equalities Act in England on the Andrew Marr show.

0phelia · 12/04/2018 18:06

Trans includes "cross dresser" aka AGP male fetishists.

Dealing with inflammatory posts re Trans on MN
CisPinkHoodie · 12/04/2018 18:02

Ophelia

Thank you for that helpful, succinct rebuttal. It will have helped any confused lurkers out there Smile

Sue0001 · 12/04/2018 18:00

Please can you reference where “AGP males are considered as transgender by Stonewall”