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Met Police change rape guidelines - shocker of a quote from cressida dick

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:06

A few articles today - this evening standard one is not paywalled.

It's interesting. Partly because the lack of disclosure was across all crimes, but the press focus in on rape (most of us will know why).

Secondly because the "We believe you" thing was - on MN at least - never about unquestioningly believing a report at all times no matter what. It was a reaction to two things:

  • Cases where women (and chidlren, probabyl men too) had reported and the police said I don't believe you go away - Saville etc Warboys had this too
  • Cases where a woman had reported a rape and immediately the police had started investigating her, and not investigating the actual crime she had reported at all

So the idea that they treat victims with dignity and respect and go and investigate is fine - I mean who wanted anything else Confused

The part that concerns me A LOT is this at the end:

"She reportedly added: "And what might be a misunderstanding between two people, clumsy behaviour between somebody who fancies somebody else, is not a matter for the police.""

This (to me) is a clear reference to "date rape" / sexual assault when the victim knows the assailant, and it happens behind closed doors, isn't it? I can't see another reading of it.

WTF?

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LotsOfSlats · 02/04/2018 14:06

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CertainHalfDesertedStreets · 02/04/2018 14:01

I read it like bluetoo too.

Not loving it but I don't think she's talking about rape. Maybe the police have had a myriad of accusations of someone putting their hand on someone else's knee in 1983.

Doubt it.

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Hypermice · 02/04/2018 13:59

An unwanted grope, whether clumsy, or Olympic level in finesse, is assault. Most women experience it and very few report.

Or must women’s bodies be open for all hands now? Just in case men’s feelings get hurt?

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:53

"now being reported to the police as such"

Has this happened?

The point of #metoo is that most of it was never reported.

When misogyny was added as a hate crime in notts, I think it was, the crimes they had reported vast majority were serious ie already illegal not trivial.

Also, where does one draw teh line between a "clumsy grope" and sexual assault. They are the same thing aren't they, and most women never report it.

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Bluetoo1 · 02/04/2018 13:49

I would say the misunderstanding bit at the end is in response to the myriad of comments about a clumsy grope or pass made at someone now being treated as sexual assault and now being reported to the police as such.

Chaosandchocolate · 02/04/2018 13:39

I think the message is clear, albeit so very carefully worded.

Well, it's not like the cases this is aimed at ever got anywhere. At least now we're being upfront. I posted a day or so ago that I'm annoyed at the psni message encouraging women to still come forward. If there's only ever a successful prosecution in certain types of cases it's misleading, patronising, cruel.. to tell women they should still report.

Months of "metoo", several high profile horrendous historic abuse investigations....and here we are, a massive fuck you to women.

Feeling rather fed up, I should probably step away. Sorry to rant on your thread.

Hypermice · 02/04/2018 13:39

Has something gone wrong with the space time continuum? We seem to be either going backwards or I’ve stepped into a parallel universe where women’s lib never happened.

She needs to be tackled on this publically and vocally

MOST rape is acquaintance rape. Or is only ‘nasty man dragging innocent nun into an alley’ counted as ‘real’ rape now.

I’m increasingly disturbed and angry with these constant events that seem to be part of a concerted attack on he very basics of decency and equality and safety in society. What the fuck is causing all this???

IrenetheQuaint · 02/04/2018 13:39

It's so hard for men to tell when a woman actually wants to have sex with them Hmm

Yet more licence for men to rape women they don't know and claim 'misunderstanding'.

I've had no time for Cressida Dick since the Jean Charles de Menezes killing, but had hoped she had improved since. Clearly not.

Ereshkigal · 02/04/2018 13:37

What in the name of god is going on in the UK? It's one thing for people in the police to think this (we know many do), but to officially announce it? Is this fucking Gilead?

That was my thought word for word!

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:35

"If it's a long time ago, or it's very trivial, or I'm not likely to get a criminal justice outcome, I'm not going to spend a lot of resources on it"

From the Mail.

This gets worse - not interested in any more historical allegations, even when the offender was prolific?

We have no statute of limitations here. She wants to informally put one in?

What about child abuse? This is the problem in the USA is the statute of limitations effectively means CSA is legal in some states as very few children report while they are still children. In teh USA they are moving away from this for serious sexual crime. In UK she wants to push us towards that?

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AngryAttackKittens · 02/04/2018 13:33

What in the name of god is going on in the UK? It's one thing for people in the police to think this (we know many do), but to officially announce it? Is this fucking Gilead?

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:31

Well yes but am I reading it wrong?

Having spent years discussing this and also as a person who has never trusted the police, it would be good to check that my reading isn't "off".

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Ereshkigal · 02/04/2018 13:28

This (to me) is a clear reference to "date rape" / sexual assault when the victim knows the assailant, and it happens behind closed doors, isn't it? I can't see another reading of it.

Oh good, that decriminalises the vast majority of rape then! I'm glad the police aren't going to waste their time on it.

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:24

I expect it's the usual line of puberty for girls.

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:24

I assume what she has said applies to teens as well?

"Date rape" is hardly uncommon with teens.

I don't think she means young children.

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Elendon · 02/04/2018 13:17

It's equivalent to adult women not being of high enough intelligence to understand the difference between a 'misunderstanding' and rape.

Yet more rape myths being perpetrated.

Conversely, obviously children are required to know the difference between a 'misunderstanding' and rape, whilst being little tempters who constantly display their emerging sexually and who consequently deserve all they get. This innate insight of children to see the difference magically disappears when the age of consent is reached.

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TheDukesOfHazzard · 02/04/2018 13:14

Couple of posts I put on another thread:

If she has said that sexual assault / rape that happens in private, with no witnesses, and is between people who know each other, is not a police matter, then that is a serious departure.

It essentially means that while it is illegal, the police are not interested.

Now we always knew they weren't very interested in "date rape" as it's hard to evidence and prosecute and so they can't be bothered. And if the woman isn't too badly physically injured then no harm done.

This statement seems to formalise this though - that women should not report rape if it's someone they know and there's no witness.

I'm not reading too much into that am I? That is what it says, right? And these people say nothing by accident, that will have been a deliberate statement.

Add message | Report | Message poster TheDukesOfHazzard Mon 02-Apr-18 13:12:53
The idea that men who sexually assault / rape women are simply "misreading signals" and being "clumsy" is so retrograde (and a lie designed to protect men).

That the Met are backing this up is a green light to rapists isn't it? Just pick someone you know and get her alone then go for it. Met says they aren't interested.

This is like some shit you'd read from an MRA (that one who said that rape on private property should be legal) or a country that has zero women's rights.

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