@yetanothertranswoman
I'd like to add my support to your post.
In an effort to understand and find solutions, there is a sort of weird evolution to this issue for many women.
One can wax and wane over the detail. Like whether there is a sliding scale of credibility, a sort of 'grading' of authenticity of transwomen. From the determination to always misgender someone, on the basis that it's simply wrong to buy into any part of the ideology, to the pre-op/postop basis for credibility. And of course, the difference between AGP and GID.
All compounded by the determination to resist one's socialisation to be 'nice', as it becomes increasingly counter-productive. Which can conflict with one's natural humanity.
And then of course, there's the give an inch, take a mile, aspect that women understand only too well.
But, and I can only speak for myself, there comes a point, (and that point is now), where the sheer hatred and misogyny for women, by people who are no more trans than I am, takes the issue to a different level entirely.
Although you, and transactivists both have the name transwomen, you couldn't be further apart.
Gender dysphoria might well, on some profound level, be a condition that is either based on, or certainly exacerbated by, the gender stereotyping that feminists have tried to dismantle. And on that level it can be hard to give any quarter.
Which accounts for the uneasiness of the allyship that has now arisen.
But. Being on different sides of the question of gender reinforcement, seems, at least to me, something that is now utterly eclipsed by the chasm that has arisen over the 'TRA and women' divide.
Gender dysphoria, as a concept, doesn't help women. It doesn't help feminism. It does the opposite.
And, of course, I understand you have no agency. You don't choose it. Like women we often have to adhere to a system, navigate it, accommodate it, whilst disagreeing with it. We can't all be heroes.
You, and many other transwomen, are, beyond doubt, being used to further a deeply misogynistic agenda. I can only imagine the frustration you feel when you say not in my name.
Men managing gender dysphoria is a dot in the distance politically. This war on women transcends it.
The only way to stop this onslaught is to prove to our politicians that they are not accommodating transpeople. And the only way that can happen is with posts like yours.
So I appreciate your OP.
It's not just necessary, it's vital.