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I WILL tell my daughter to moderate her behaviour...

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NotTakenUsername · 28/03/2018 18:07

Because this land does not protect her otherwise.
I will advise that she should not attend a party with multiple men who think nothing of referring to women as a group of sluts or texting a mate to ask if there is any chance of a threesome.
I will ask her to consider what she wears and the impression she might inadvertently give off. I will strongly advise that a VPL is far preferable to the things that could be insinuated if she chooses to go underwear free.
I will ask her to take the long walk home to avoid being alone in a dimly lit area. I will inconvenience myself daily to collect her if that is safer still.
I will warn her of the reputation she may find hard to shake, if she has too many sexual partners.
I will teach her that men lie to get what they want.
I don’t care if this makes me a shit feminist or worse still a chauvinist.
She is my daughter and I love her and I must protect her from this world that is so perversely weighted towards men at the expense of women.
I’m appalled, but not surprised.
I give up.

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NotTakenUsername · 28/03/2018 18:14

Oh thank god. I thought I was feeding myself to the lions but I’m so out. I can’t protect her with idealistisms. I wish I could. But I have to protect her.

I will make sure that she knows she shouldn’t have to do these things.

I’m also expecting. If I have a son I will promise to do my best to raise a really respectful and decent man.

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Fishfingersandwichnocheese · 28/03/2018 18:12

Indeed. I do not have any DC but it is obvious that society will harm rather than protect women.

conservativeuterus · 28/03/2018 18:11

It makes you a realist. And I will be doing the same with my daughter, and also making sure she has some form of self defence training.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 28/03/2018 18:11

Caveat all of your reasoning with the fact that this is not really out of choice; but is about making good decisions in keeping with the current climate.

I'll be doing the same. I want my daughter to know what she has to do to live happily and safely but also how it SHOULD be.

AnachronisticCorpse · 28/03/2018 18:10

Scuse typos.

AnachronisticCorpse · 28/03/2018 18:10

I’m with you. It’s horrendous, and I don’t believe it’s ever the victim’s fault BUT I’m not prepared to sacrifice my daughter on the altar of my principles.

I also have two sons who I am doing my utmost to raise as men who’s genuinely like women.

The whole fucking world terrifies me right now.