Please or to access all these features

Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

How do I fill in this form about ‘gender identity’?

108 replies

53rdWay · 23/03/2018 10:30

Have to complete a form for work. One of the questions is this:

Gender identity
1)
a) I live and work in the same gender role to that assigned to me at birth
b) I live and work in the opposite gender role to that assigned at my birth
c) prefer not to say.

a) my gender identity is the same as that assigned to me at birth
b) my gender identity is the opposite to that assigned to me at birth
c) prefer not to say.

This is a web form. One of the answers must be ticked, & there is no space for comments. So I could tick box c) for both - but I would indeed prefer to say exactly what my problem is with these questions!

Am thinking of refusing to do it and sending back a brief explanation of what my problem is with this (not least that we’re in an area that has had big problems with recruiting/promoting women - thank heavens for all those women who battled their way through rather than working in the gender roles assigned to them! FFS.)

What would you say?

OP posts:
ErrolTheDragon · 23/03/2018 14:55

As I said before, I don't know what 'work in the same/different gender role' could possibly mean. Other than that whoever asked the question actually believes we should still think in terms of 'men's jobs' and 'women's jobs'.

orangepie · 23/03/2018 14:55

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen
Do transwomen out of college get paid 20% more than cis women?

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 23/03/2018 14:52

Honestly, honestly, honestly, I calculate the gender pay gap for a living.

It's the SEX pay gap. SEX is the protected characteristic. We can't count 112 gender expressions, that's nonsense. We count SEX.

orangepie · 23/03/2018 14:50

I love how 53rdWay thinks a passing trans woman comes out college and goes for a job and the employers goes your gender is female but your birth sex says you where wrongly assigned male at birth. Your sex organ gets you 20% more money.

People it's the Gender Pay Gap not Sex Pay Gap. As feminists we have been fighting the Gender Pay Gap for decades.

SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace · 23/03/2018 14:48

Orange you're wrong and you're a big stirrer.

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 23/03/2018 14:46

Inclusion got added on to Diversity in HR starting about ten years ago, they all use the same old Stonewall script.

53rdWay · 23/03/2018 14:43

sex is body parts and unimportant to how you feel and present.

Pretty sodding important to how I’m treated, though, which is what I’d want HR to care about. When I lost a previous job because of pregnancy, that had sod all to do with how I felt deep down in my consciousness.

OP posts:
Kneedeepinunicorns · 23/03/2018 14:40

Ooh and look what I just found: hurrah for Wikipedia!

'Socially constructed gender roles are considered to be hierarchical, and are characterized as a male-advantaged gender hierarchy.'

So by engaging in a survey using the language of gender roles, don't you automatically comply with male advantage/female disadvantage? Is this really a hierarchy a work place should be enforcing? And what if you don't agree that anyone choosing a female gender role should be disadvantaged? Or can you 'opt out' of your female disadvantage as soon as you tick the 'male gender role' box, and female disadvantage is a preference/masochism thing?

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 23/03/2018 14:39

sex is body parts and unimportant to how you feel and present.

Well if I present with no bra and top on it certainly seems rather important. I feel a bit yuck because my female body parts are doing their female thing, wearing trousers doesn't seem to identify me out of that?

Oh yes, if I get a new birth certificate it will be ok. This is the modern solution not like back then. When was back then exactly?

Bumblebzz · 23/03/2018 14:39

orangepie do you really actually believe that nonsense?

CircleSquareCircleSquare · 23/03/2018 14:38

orange
So how would I, as a clinician be able to tell how a baby feels about their gender?

If all record of a person shows them to be “female” (when they are anatomically male) because of how they identify, how do I then account for differences in serological results and also for that matter when it comes to prescribing medication?

vesuvia · 23/03/2018 14:37

S0ph1a wrote - "I wasn’t assigned a gender role at birth"

Everyone is assigned a gender role, more accurately a sex role (behaviour expected by society for each biological sex) at birth, based on the person's observed (or very rarely, assigned) biological sex. Whether or not someone does the behaviours or not is another matter, but the person's conformity or non-conformity does not mean that gender role was not assigned at birth. Gender role is not biological sex. Gender role is not gender identity (which is how masculine/feminine/male/female you feel and therefore allegedly "are").

Biological sex is observed at birth for male and female people with unambiguous sexual characteristics. The very small number of intersex people are assigned a biological sex shortly after birth. Intersex is very rare. Intersex is not transsexuality nor transgender.

Kneedeepinunicorns · 23/03/2018 14:35

Orange

The World Health Organization (WHO) defines gender roles as "socially constructed roles, behaviors, activities and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women"

Please could you point me to the UK society defined appropriate behaviours, activities and attributes for women? (And who is in that society and how did they work out which went with which?)

Who polices them?

What happens if some of my behaviours, activities and attributes aren't deemed appropriate by these standards?

Mouthtrousersafrocknowandthen · 23/03/2018 14:34

@orangepie
There was no doctor there when I was born. There was no doctor there when my mother was born. There was no doctor there when I gave birth to my two kids.

Should I pop down to the GP and ask for us all to be assigned?

Go to HR about this missing option? I work in HR and trust me, we all laugh at this pomo twaddle.

PerfectlyDone · 23/03/2018 14:33

orangepie, what is your agenda?
Seriously, what is it that you are trying to achieve?

Sex is a biological fact, we may like the sex we were born in to or not, we may easily slip in to the gender attributes that society tells us 'should' go with that sex, or we may not. Gender is a social construct, a feeling, and giving it power over public policy is part of a society in which feeling trumps facts, individuals feelings somehow have become more important for decisions affecting public policy than what affects vast majorities of people, and in particular women.

orangepie · 23/03/2018 14:32

Gender is what you feel and present to the world, sex is body parts and unimportant to how you feel and present.

Gender is the consciousness and what is important, sex is flesh.

greenyblue · 23/03/2018 14:30

orange - what is the difference between sex and gender, in your opinion?

CircleSquareCircleSquare · 23/03/2018 14:27

Back when orange?

orangepie · 23/03/2018 14:25

You all realise that sex and gender where not understood the same back then just like homosexuality. Thankfully there is plans already to update the birth certs to change the word sex to gender with our more reasoned understanding of gender now.

CircleSquareCircleSquare · 23/03/2018 14:23

orange
The doctor did not assign her gender at birth. The doctor recognised her sex.

SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace · 23/03/2018 14:22

The doctor observed that her sex was female at birth.
Society attributes gendered characteristics which feminists generally try to counter and reject.

orangepie · 23/03/2018 14:17

OP not sure what your issue is the doctor assigned you female gender at birth

If you still feel your gender is female you select - live and work in the same gender role to that assigned to me at birth

If you now feel your gender is male you select - I live and work in the opposite gender role to that assigned at my birth

If you now feel you have no gender or gender nonconforming you select - prefer not to say and go to HR about the missing other option.

It's not hard, I don't see the issue other than they forgot the "Other" option from the start.

Speedy85 · 23/03/2018 14:07

Good on you OP Smile

53rdWay · 23/03/2018 13:52

Right, have replied saying that I don’t have a “gender identity”, gender is a social construct used to oppress women, plus that I find the question about gender roles at work to be offensive. I mean, how am I working in a female gender role? What would that mean? Makeup and heels and hair twirling and letting men do all the talking in meetings?

Will see if they get back to me to discuss, but I doubt it...

OP posts:
TheGoldenBough · 23/03/2018 13:42

Admittedly, I only got to C, but maybe many of us would fall under Cassgender - the feeling of gender isn't important to you.

Although I get the impression it's supposed to mean something a lot more 'interesting' than "fuck off with your meaningless, socially constructed gender roles."

Swipe left for the next trending thread