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SwearyG · 22/03/2018 11:56

After the runaway success of last week and the traction we have in the media (shitty interviews aside, but we'll ignore those) and they're keen to know what we're doing this week, and what would really help us is numbers. I hope that if we get enough companies to pull their self-ID stuff we can then start getting at the places where more vulnerable women will need protecting, possibly not with public activism but with discourse, but I think that might be us getting ahead of ourselves.

The plan for tomorrow is changing rooms. We know that Topshop, Primark, Marks and Spencer and Urban Outfitters have said that anyone who identifies as a woman can enter the women's changing rooms so the opposite will apply.

Clearly, it won't make a huge amount of impact as a single act in a single shop so we need numbers and social media impact to push this one. I can't dare to hope about the success of last week but I think bringing it to the attention of people who don't know who is allowed in their changing rooms has got to have some impact.

So here's what we need to do:

Pick one of the shops listed

Use one of the changing rooms. You could use the men's as it's man Friday or you could be a horrid man perving in the women's instead. Do what you're comfortable with.

Take photos - they can be of you changing, of the gaps around the curtain, of you outside the men's changing room, if you're brave and take a friend they could be of you inside the changing room taken around the curtain or under the door.

Tweet the company and @ManFriday_ and say something along the lines of how great it was to be in whichever changing room and how nice it was to be around all sorts of people in stages of undress. Say how you appreciate that your feelings are being considered as more important than the safety, privacy and dignity of everyone else in there. You can say stuff about vulnerability too, go to town with your 280 characters.

Don't forget to add the hashtag #manfriday

I know it's something little, but it is something most people would be able to do in a lunch hour or small part of their day and the more people we have the better in the media. We will get better press coverage, and therefore maybe companies rethinking their policies with greater numbers.

Swim England have taken down their guidance, silently, we don't know what they're going to do next, but it does feel like if nothing else we've made people think.

If you're concerned that it won't make a difference, remember that people are still talking about this in the national press in a world where we live in a 24 hour news cycle. Just from two women going for a swim.

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Testingnamechange1 · 22/03/2018 12:16

I can only find news items so far. This on Primark:

www.express.co.uk/life-style/style/583724/Primark-official-guidance-transgender-changing-room-use

DontCisgenderMe · 22/03/2018 12:13

Tweet the company and @ManFriday_ and say something along the lines of how great it was to be in whichever changing room and how nice it was to be around all sorts of people in stages of undress. Say how you appreciate that your feelings are being considered as more important than the safety, privacy and dignity of everyone else in there.

Love this wording!

Testingnamechange1 · 22/03/2018 12:11

Excellent. Am not in the UK at the minute but will certainly share/like/comment in newspaper articles etc etc.

AuntyElle · 22/03/2018 12:07

We know that Topshop, Primark, Marks and Spencer and Urban Outfitters have said that anyone who identifies as a woman can enter the women's changing rooms so the opposite will apply.

Are these companies’ statements collated anywhere to quote from?

SwearyG · 22/03/2018 12:07

You can do either. By all means take bras to the men's

Twitter is helpful, that's where we hashtag but please share wherever you can (or get a friend to tweet?)

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Patodp · 22/03/2018 12:05

Take clothes from the women's George I have some manly bra shopping needing doing.

GeorgeTheHippo · 22/03/2018 12:04

If I identify as a man tomorrow and go to try on clothes in the mens changing rooms, should I take clothes from the mens section or the womens?

AreYouTerfEnough · 22/03/2018 12:03

This is a fantastic idea. I’m not on twitter though. Does it have to be twitter?

Patodp · 22/03/2018 12:02

Love this.

I live near Westfield shopping centre and need to go there anyway.
Great opportunity to make use of Topman, M&S mens dept etc.

NoSquirrels · 22/03/2018 12:00

Swim England have taken down their guidance, silently, we don't know what they're going to do next, but it does feel like if nothing else we've made people think.

Wow! That’s huge. Well done!