Women's aid? How to ask for help

Your partner's immigration issues are a separate issue @satorye - please don't let that stop you accessing the help you need.

Please call the number listed above 0808 2000 247

shaktiedinburgh.co.uk/immigration/ This is local to me, but there will be others near you.

There'll be people at your local women's aid who will be able to advise about these issues, or they'll find out for you if they don't have an answer.
You are far from the only woman with these issues - it happens to a lot of women and there are systems in place to support you.
If they're able to support you they may also give you information about getting back into education.
I've seen a lot of women access support through women's aid, including specialist women's aid for BME women such as Shakti Women's Aid, who have gone on to get good jobs and feel so much more confident after a bit of help and guidance and the increase in confidence that comes from leaving someone who is dragging you down.

I agree try and call Women’s Aid, they will help you out of the situation, however long it takes to do safely.
Rape Crisis are also good when you are at the stage of trying to recover, but Women’s Aid will help you with the practicalities now.

It is very, very hard to make the first step and talk to someone, but you have done nothing wrong and you deserve a life free from fear with your DC. In time you will be able to train and get a job, and I am sure you have skills you have not even thought of. Being in an abusive relationship grinds down your self-esteem, but you have lots to offer the world. Concentrate on getting support and to a safe place, then there will be opportunities to take up regarding college or work.

Take care

If you can’t phone easily then try emailing them

If you ring the national helpline it can be quite difficult to get through, but try ringing your local office. I always got through straight away

They can offer a lot of practical and emotional support. They will help.

OP

Ring them, and don't be discouraged if it takes a while to get through - they are very busy at the moment. They will help you work out how to leave safely.

Take care of yourself and stay in touch. You might also consider posting on the Relationships board, where there are a lot of posters who have had similar experiences and who are very supportive and full of good advice.

The first step is making the call. They will know how to help you.

Depending on your circumstances, if it is safe, you might want to get together an emergency bag with important documents like birth certificates, bank details and any cash you can access and a change of clothes for you and your child if you have to leave in a hurry.

Leaving is the most dangerous time so stay safe but do remember you are doing the right thing for you and your child. You are a valuable person and you deserve to live your life free from abuse

Start by phoning their helpline, and repeat what you posted here. They can help you leave and find a place in a refuge, then move on from there. Its not an easy thing to do and it will take some courage on your part. But the alternative is to stay put, and the longer you stay the more you will regret it.

Sorry you haven't had a response earlier, possibly because you've posted in the feminism boards and you haven't included the word trans in your thread.
Sounds like you are going through a really difficult time. Have you tried just calling Women's Aid, their number is 0808 2000 247. Sometimes you just need to take the first step. They can help explore your options with you.
Good luck