Women's aid? How to ask for help

Thanks @Badgerbodger. Well it's going all right. I'm just waiting for him to move out in two-three weeks(supposedly he already booked a house). Other than that it's same old...I hope you're doing ok too.

Thanks. Today I got convinced I was expecting too much. We went out-I let him sleep in the morning(as in didn't ask any help around LO)and we let him get ready in peace, choose where he wants to go. Then we came to town and he was acting whole time as if he's too good to walk next to me, sorta got his nose up in the air and acted as he's model on red carpet or something. Acted totally above me-it was impossible to have easygoing conversation people have on the way. Basically whatever I said or did was wrong and I instantly regretted any move considering how much stress it resulted in. I'm aware I'm bit odd even bit disoriented perhaps but if other mums can have coffee with me and stand me for 2-3 hours surely he could too? Anyway this was the last time I went out with him. My LO and I have better time on our own.

Hi all, thanks. I have bit of an update.
I've been to last WA meeting this week and I've got some advice.
I've got place to go for advice about debts, applying for housing isn't possible at the moment(I'll apply after working for couple of months from this Summer), I've got app for advice on my immigration status, I got reffered to some place for mums like me(like group or something, think it's called Shine?)and I've proceeded with helping my partner apply for visa.
He's living here because he has nowhere else to go atm, we agreed he'll move out by 15th June and I've set conditions for living here until he does. He hasn't breached any so far.

If he does his stuff will be on the staircase and in worst case we'll ask for emergency accomodation again and see from there.

I think this is pretty much all I can do at the moment, all together. My next worry(along with making his passport ASAP so we have another option)is finding some nursery that offers my LO adjusting through long period of time so that at age 3 he can be fully left alone. I've been at home for two years with him, I can manage another one, don't want to ruin it for him.

Yeah I supposse you are right, I just have to put myself together and see my options. I need to get out of my head that we were once"something", I suppose this part always makes it hard for people to focus on making decisions in situations like this. Disappointment is huge..I remember I actually thought I'm in love with him and didn't even care after that for the"deal"I came for. I honestly thought I could live my life with a stranger.

Thanks all for responding and reading, sorry I'm quite stressed and can't focus to reply to each of you seperately.

I suppose I'm ok with lock that's already there that you can switch when inside so no key can open it, it makes me feel safe enough since he can't get past the outside door that need passcode. 

WA actually gave me an app for legal advice but it's like in 10 days and I've meeting at WA in few days.

Thanks for new links for legal advice I saved them and are going to try seek advice before meeting, probably will call them tomorrow or even email them tonight if possible.

(Yeah my son was born here but he doesn't get citizenship since neither of us is from UK, he does have some advances for studying here if coming from abroad I think or something not very relevant atm)

I'm trying to make the best decision for all but my"partner"literally said"If you don't want to cooperate I'll find another option, I've got plenty of"as if I'm the one who needs him?...I'm just confused with his ass hole attitude and I can't stand him going around playing victim. I know he'll get people on his side when he tells"the story"without anyone asking me anything. Even when police took him that day when he set fire, he told them something(I can't remember if he told me what)and she told him I'm"playing games"??
I am just wondering what sane person would say that after he set fire inside house where his baby was in next room??
I'm more and more liking the idea of cutting contact with him and managing on my own, even if it means peniless back to my country.

Thanks folks. So I've got long update and I'd apprecciate someones advice before I speak to WA further..

 Woman from WA told me to call the police if he comes to property. He hasn't done that but he was trying to play on my pity for him to let him stay over, which I didn't. 

 Instead of changing the lock I will ask neighbours to change password for front door(there's that intercom-thing), hopefully they'll know how to?

If I change the lock I'll have to speak to landlord and my partner's boss is renting it to us since he took lease from that landlord so it's complicated. I lock the door when I'm at home so he can't use key, close the windows at night and when I'm out.

 He also said he'll look for another place for me and our child because he can't afford this apartment since he has to pay for his room/place as well.

Problem: he said if I want to"continue cooperating"with him for visa based on our relationship/family I should make it appear like we're together in front of everyone, including WA in case their notes reach someone.

He wouldn't live here and we wouldn't be in relationship anymore but on paper.

  The reason I'm having second thoughts is because I have better job opportunities here and my family is also abusive, I left home for multiple reasons and I don't want my child to come in contact with A LOT of people in that small town. In general my home country is quite of a hell for raising pro-feminist child(or to simply live there).

 In other words, he never helped me get a job here so after certain period of time I'm here pretty much illegally until I can get normal job in Summer(when restricitons are off). He made it appear I'm self-employed on papers and arranged things but I haven't got NIN yet. 

 I think I will ask WA to let me take a look at notes they took so far(I think you can ask they said?), just so I don't get paranoid further...

Another thing is that I don't want social workers involved again-it's not neccessary, at least not what they could do. I'm taking care of my child the best I can and he's not lacking developementally or in any other way(they have confirmed that last time as well).

I feel that my legal status at some point will come in question in case I would proceed with acceppting their help. I'm just not that savvy to pull it off and I hate lying.



All I have asked from my"partner"is that he finds good abuser programme where they are in contact with me regularly to hear both sides of story and for his treatment to be effective. 

He refused, saying he found something which offers group, 1on1, clinical therapy and so on. And obviously delicate flower as he is he will go only for someone who'll never question him, that is, 1on1 therapy option.

He is denying pretty much almost everything he did, calling me as abusive as he is, putting most blame on me and acting as if I am the one who should be grateful to him for talking to me.

I cannot stand him and I'm torn between risking my childs existention by possibly having to go back to my home country or putting up with his abuse from distance while hanging in the air.

How confidential is WA if they involve child protection and social worker services? I don't have anyone to just tell it like it is...