Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Feminism: chat

Original poster

Discussion thread regarding porn <trigger warning - contains distressing content & links>

31 replies

VaguelyAware · 18/02/2018 23:52

Following a recent thread regarding porn & its detrimental effect on sexual attitudes, particularly amongst teens, one poster suggested we should have a further thread to continue the discussion.

I don't want to link to the thread until I've got permission from the OP of the previous thread, just in case, for any reason, she would rather the other thread fell from view.

I should add, I'm not an authority on this subject; I was horrified at many of the links in the previous thread. I was still under the impression that a lot of porn was significantly "softer" & lot closer to what it was 15-20 years ago. An attitude I suspect many other posters shared.

I am adding a trigger warning from the start. Please, anyone reading this thread, be aware that any links may potentially be distressing. However, I would ask that if anyone does post a link with potentially distressing content, they clearly state this.

OP posts:
FannyWisdom · 19/02/2018 01:39

I was one of those who doesn't use pornography but imagined it to be a slightly more robust version of Razzle or Fiesta from the 70's 80's.
Not my thing but in General what blokes do to get off.
I visited the popular porn site expecting to be surprised at the variety.

I was wrong.
Very wrong.

Nothing I saw was even remotely like sex. It was abuse.
I watched the start of three porn clips.
In each one restraint or overpowering was prominent.
I don't know how or why porn has mutated but it's nothing to do with sex now.
I'm not going to link, the implied incest in the popular titles leaves me cold, God knows how you get your brain around it if you have a blended family and step anything's.

If you haven't looked, you must. As horrible as it is you need to see what is being passed off as normal.

Geronimoleapinglizards · 19/02/2018 01:29

I was still under the impression that a lot of porn was significantly "softer" & lot closer to what it was 15-20 years ago

I'd imagine a lot of people have this impression. The reality is extremely shocking.

Secretlifeofme · 19/02/2018 00:04

Oops! Cross Post! Glad to see we are on the same page though Wink

Original poster
VaguelyAware · 19/02/2018 00:04

Haha fabulous X-post!

Grin
OP posts:
Original poster
VaguelyAware · 19/02/2018 00:02

I will start by posting a link for the kickstarter to fund new piece of theatre exploring love, connection and the impact of pornography on children and young people:

www.kickstarter.com/projects/1483928292/why-is-the-sky-blue-or-how-to-make-slime/description

They have £6,030 of the £7,000 needed, & must raise the rest by 2pm today or it won't go ahead. Some lovely person (or couple of people) has donated £1k in the last couple of hours!

OP posts:
Secretlifeofme · 18/02/2018 23:57

Hello @VaguelyAware. I think this is a really valid discussion nowadays. In fact a friend of mine who is a theatre director is currently fundraising for a touring production devised and performed by young people about the effects of pornography on relationships, as well as a nationwide education project on the subject. It's a great project. If you don't mind I'm going to put the link here - please share and help to promote this conversation in a wider arena.
www.kickstarter.com/projects/1483928292/why-is-the-sky-blue-or-how-to-make-slime?ref=email