So it seems that it is now a really big deal to some people that we use the pronoun that they like, not the pronoun we would expect to use for them. Eg. this guidance from a university, to its staff, about the most commonly preferred alternative pronouns:
"They/them/theirs (Shea ate their food because they were hungry.) This is a pretty common gender-neutral pronoun and it can be used in the singular. In fact, “they” was voted as the Word of the Year in 2015.
Ze/hir/hir (Tyler ate hir food because ze was hungry.) Ze is pronounced like “zee” can also be spelled zie or xe, and replaces she/he/they. Hir is pronounced like “here” and replaces her/hers/him/his/they/theirs.
Just my name please! (Ash ate Ash’s food because Ash was hungry) Some people prefer not to use pronouns at all, using their name as a pronoun instead."
In some workplaces, you are now expected to ask everyone at a meeting what their preferred pronoun is. Think about all the time that wastes, just on the off-chance that someone wants to use their own special pronoun.
So how about abolishing the he/she pronouns, and moving everyone onto the same gender neutral pronoun?
This is what used to happen in China. Men and women were all referred to as "ta" (he/she), with "tamen" as the plural (they). Until the 1920s when, because of influence from the West, they decided they needed a separate pronoun for women. Everyone is still referred to as "ta" though, it's how it's written that's different. It keeps things nice and simple.
What pronoun shall we choose?