Advice for young daughter on LGB

My dd is bisexual and as she is gender non conforming I do worry very much about the trans agenda impacting on her. Sadly this makes me glad that she does not want to be a part of things like her school's LGBT+ support group, something that was set up for children like her. She is an older teen and I think pretty confident in who she is but the 'T' is so dominant right now and bisexuals are not always accepted by the gay community as there is a fair bit of prejudice about either playing at being a lesbian or passing privilege when in straight relationships.

As a parent when she was younger we just supported her, told her we loved her, that she should make her own choices, that being with a guy or a girl was fine by us so long as they were nice and treated her well and that we'd have her back if she got teased or bullied. As she has got older we've talked about who she fancied and why and welcomed the girls she has introduced us to (no boys yet but I expect there will be some in time).

I have bought dd books featuring gay, lesbian and bi teenagers (not age appropriate for a 10 year old though!) but not looked for web sites etc.

Of course ten is young. Not to know who she is! My niece knew she liked girls at two years old!

But it is young to worry about who she will have sexual relations with. She has time to think about girls, boys if she feels it, have crushes and be reassured that whomever she likes is fine by her mum (as long as they are nice to her).

As a lesbian let me say that just because she is attracted to girls, this by no means means she will ever "feel like a boy"... you cannot be persuaded to be trans. You are or you aren't.

As far as 10 being "too young" I think that's rubbish. I knew by 10 that I didn't think of boys in the same way my friends did. 10 is an age when you start to have playground crushes and "slow dance" with boys at school discos. there wasn't a single boy in my school I wanted to slowdance with or had a crush on. However I vividly remember having a crush on a girl in year 7 when I was in 6.

If your DD came home at 10 and declared they only had crushes on boys and there was a boy in her class she liked, would you think that was too young ? That it's too young to declare yourself as straight ?

10 is young. With DD I tend to try to use LGB inclusive language when I talk about relationships. That way, whomever she wants to have a relationship with is 'normal' to our family. So we talk about someone having a husband or wife/girlfriend or boyfriend, regardless of their sex.

The T stuff is hard. They are very keen on it at her school and I do a lot of push back at home. She comes back saying she has a 'boy brain' because she likes Lego I say, "boys and girls can both like Lego".

10 is very young. Not particularly to be thinking and talking about relationships, particularly if she's in a group who chat about boyfriends etc. but I'd take the 'you've got a while before you need to think about this' stance.