Warning, possibly upsetting, child sex abuse.

I totally hear this. I was in an abudive sexual relationship with my male teacher from the age of 14 (and even more shockingly he’s still teaching due to it being hard to prove and historic but that’s another thread altogether!) but even people who should have been on my side have made ill informed and misogynistic, victim blaming comments like “Well you did dress very provocatively”/“You were very developed for your age”/“You did have a school girl crush on him!”

Fairly sure if my husband had been through the same experience no one who say the same kinds of things.

Is abusing boys more shocking than abusing girls? More horrific?

Not once they get to adolescence and they're abused by women. Then the prevailing narrative is that they're 'lucky buggers'

Yes. I don't know that people think abuse of boys is worse but they definitely think they are more reliable witnesses.

Dismissing abused girls and women as hysterical fantasists has been going on since at least Freud.

I hadn't spotted this either but you are right.

I hadn't spotted that. Really good point.

Because girls and women are liars and slags and asking for it and temptresses and gold diggers and because boys and men aren't.

Misogyny and the patriarchy basically

Yes I totally see what you mean - it's very hard to explain, but there is something intrinsically ingrained in society to value the world and testimony of women less than that of men.

It's always dreadful when a child is abused. Children of one sex don't come into the world more resilient than the other or more worthy of abuse.

I think some people act as though that were the case though.
Even when a girl is very young people look for the same kinds of get out clauses and ways to victim blame that they would for an adult woman.

Basically anything that puts them in the 'seductive' box. Was a 4 year old wearing a short dress? That kind of thing. Did an 8 year old talk to him alone?
Plus project that need to victim blame onto the parents of the victim.
She was a single mum who should have vetted her boyfriend better.
When it is clear that a groomer puts on an incredibly good act.

Anything other than laying blame at the feet of the perpetrator.