Utah school bans students from saying “no” when asked to dance [Edited by MNHQ]

It was turn about boys asking and girls asking. All it meant was that you did not have the humiliation of asking someone to dance and them
Laughing in your face and saying no.

It was boys ask, girls accept, for us. No turnaround. (Not Scotland either).

My children would not be attending, frankly.

Sorry - meant to say - I did not have a problem with it back then. Obviously this context is different.

Are boys allowed to refuse the dance request of another boy? 😉

We had this in school for ‘social dancing’. I grew up in Scotland.

Tbh I don’t really have a problem with it (and I’m pretty keen on ideas of consent).

It was turn about boys asking and girls asking. All it meant was that you did not have the humiliation of asking someone to dance and them
Laughing in your face and saying no.

And yes, you did have to dance with the smelly boys and the weird boys. But the boys also had to dance with girls like me. (Spots, braces, glasses, swot). When the teacher announced “girls’ choice” there was a scramble to get a boy you kind of liked. But if you had the balls to ask them, they had to say yes.

It was a two minute formal dance in a brightly lit room.

They haven't changed the policy. So they haven't even caught up with 1803.

I suppose as it's Utah the girl should be happy that she hasn't got to dance with the boy and a few sister wives too,.

Goodness. That school was trying to give its female students less power than Jane Austen ascribes women 200 years ago.

Henry Tilney explaining gender politics in Northanger Abbey:
You will allow, that in both [marriage and dancing], man has the advantage of choice, woman only the power of refusal.

Or apparently not even that in Utah. Very glad the school have now caught up with, er, 1803.

The girls have to be inclusive with their actual bodies?

Even at 12 and 13 there were boys who were inappropriate, that's given them a free pass to harrass girls they've already been hassling.

The girls aren't going to be demanding boys dance with them are they?

What actually would they do to a girl who refused a boy?

We had these rules at school when I was in the first year at grammar school The teachers must have gone to my school

TBH disco had been the rage for many years so why we were doing the Military Twostep and the Gay Gordons was beyond us at the time and I have never worked it out. We had to learn it for the afternoon 'Christmas Party' we had to partake in.

I kept getting asked by this short fat boy called Christopher. He was very sweet, not very verbal but an adequate dancer. I would have preferred a better dancer.

A lesson in humiliation.

Ugh. Reminds me of line dancing at school. Boys one side girls the other side. Both sexes hated it with a passion.

I'd be raging

Goodness me! i've jus read their dance rules. That is so much hard work, whatever happened to just spontaneously dancing with whoever you like, however many times you like?

I'd have got together with all the other mums then and decided not to bother with the dance. The boys can dance all by themselves.

Girls aren't allowed to say no to boys but there is no such thing as rape culture. /s

Happily, the school seems to have listened and are walking it back:

www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2018/02/13/health/utah-school-children-dance-trnd/index.html