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Were you a 'tom boy' growing up?

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LeslieKnopefan · 04/02/2018 23:58

I grew up in the 80s / 90s and was a complete tom boy, I hated wearing dresses - in fact the only pictures of me wearing them growing up was at weddings wear I look miserable!

I loved football, watched it obsessively and played it in the garden and for a while played for a team but that wasn't very easy as there wasn't many about.

It wasn't easy, boys didnt want me to play football with them and from the age of about 13 playing sport wasnt cool for girls so I gave most of it up to fit in.

But, no one questioned if I was a girl, of course I was and now as an adult I am very happy to be a woman, even if I prefer the company of men and still hardly wear a dress or makeup and love sport.

Is it easier for girls to be tomboys (for a better word!) now? There does seem to be more sports but I am very worried that if I was a teen now I would think I was in the wrong body or have other people say that to me?

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Yellowshadeofgreen · 05/02/2018 00:06

Yes and my DD is the same.

Justabunchofcunts · 05/02/2018 00:04

Yes I was. I felt like I didn't understand why people treated boys differently. Very happy in my clearly female body though. But had mermaids come to my primary school or even secondary who knows if I would have decided I needed medical changes etc.

Now a very happy grown woman.