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Not all pussies are pink

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OldBlueStitches · 03/02/2018 10:08

So I was gently introducing a friend to the issue of self identification, female penises etc. Came on to the women's march and the "not all pussies are pink" tweet.

She agreed. Not all pussies are pink.
I said we're all pink on the inside.
She said no, pussy refers to vulva - hence the pussy hats being vulvas.

Now help me out here. I thought it refers to vagina. Have I got this wrong?!

She then told me that people of all other skin colours apart from white don't have pink vaginas, either.

I'm straight, white and not an HCP so never seen inside other women's vaginas! She's white with DDs from a black father. I am wondering if I've got this wrong too! And I'm so embarrassed I may have!!!!

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OldBlueStitches · 04/02/2018 22:18

Big Grin

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OldBlueStitches · 04/02/2018 22:17

Sold Thanks for answering. It's a bit of a weird question and I was uncomfortable asking, but after the awkward discussion in RL, I thought an anonymous forum could help me out!

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OldBlueStitches · 04/02/2018 22:15

I did read the link Upstart. But when people (women I'm assuming) were guessing about the colour of vaginas upthread, nobody who actually knew said anything. I merely assumed that if someone knew, especially because they weren't white, they'd have corrected/confirmed the guesswork. I didn't think they would have been obliged to, more that it was so blatantly guesswork that it'd have been clarified by an expert! I could have been wrong and quite possibly was. But there you go!

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hipsterfun · 04/02/2018 11:03

Identity politics is a divisory tactic and it’s working like a charm.

MrsDoylesTeaBags · 04/02/2018 10:56

The argument agains Pink Pussy Hats is a divisory tactic by TRAs and MRAs.

By implanting this idea that somehow white women and WOC are biologically different they can cause disagreement between women and then assert themselves as allies at the same time shutting down discussion about biology which is 'offensive' and 'hurtful'

BigDeskBob · 04/02/2018 10:23

If she was intending for that hat to look like her vagina, she did a piss poor job. Smile

TallulahWaitingInTheRain · 04/02/2018 09:22

Krista Suh, pussy hat designer

Not all pussies are pink
TallulahWaitingInTheRain · 04/02/2018 09:16

A woman of colour co-designed the hats and the colour is intended to reflect the femininity which is foisted on women of all colours.

Now a witty and inclusive metaphor has been turned into an opportunity for prurient speculation about the colour of women's vaginas in order to divide and conquer us and also shame us out of discussing our shared biology.

Thanks for that Bergdorf et al

SoldMeDownTheRiver · 04/02/2018 01:50

Have any women complained about the colour of the hats or has it just been TIMs complaining?

SoldMeDownTheRiver · 04/02/2018 01:45

But i don't think it's at all relevant because i'm sure the pussy hats are pink because pink is the colour associated with women and girls, not because they're supposed to look like actual vulvas or vaginas!

SoldMeDownTheRiver · 04/02/2018 01:43

I have brown skin, brown labia majora and brown labia minora. But the inside of my vagina is bright pink!

UpstartCrow · 04/02/2018 00:55

We're not all white here. What gave you that idea?
You didnt read the link I posted, did you?

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OldBlueStitches · 03/02/2018 23:16

I'm really shocked that we're all white here - it seems that way from the replies. Maybe I shouldn't be. I don't see it as a positive thing. We're missing out on a lot. But not sure how that can change on an anonymous forum.

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TallulahWaitingInTheRain · 03/02/2018 22:11

Your joke was aimed at Trump, not at women survivors and personally I had no problem with it.

It's time to for women to talk about we experience these interactions instead of allowing men to decide what they mean and whether they matter.

DontPullThatTubeOut · 03/02/2018 22:07

I know for fact that black women are also pink/flesh coloured. My friend showing me photos accidentally confirmed that one. She is mixed race.

claraschu · 03/02/2018 22:03

Horrible. I shouldn't have joked about it Sad

TallulahWaitingInTheRain · 03/02/2018 16:57

I've had my pussy grabbed. It involves jabbing the thumb against the pubic bone in order to force the fingers up in a cotton ceiling direction and it's really rather painful when done with any force.

QueenLaBeefah · 03/02/2018 16:55

It really is a classic case of divide and conquer. To stop women working together.

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OldBlueStitches · 03/02/2018 16:49

Had my crotch grabbed a fair amount in my youth. My vulva wasn't appreciative.

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OldBlueStitches · 03/02/2018 16:37

Ha! This is a great read to come back to!! Thanks! I suddenly worried that someone would think I was a nutter as I've not much posting history in this name!

I think there is maybe a U.K./North American difference as my friend is American. The person who made that tweet is British though - I think.

Loved reading the replies!!

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UpABitLate · 03/02/2018 15:54

You can certainly reach out and grab a woman's crotch. Especially if you get your hand so the fingers are underneath.

I've been "grabbed by the pussy" in the pub before now so it's definitely doable.

Glamourgates · 03/02/2018 15:36

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claraschu · 03/02/2018 15:07

I have never understood the logistics of grabbing someone by the pussy. I mean, there isn't anything grabbable, is there?? Perhaps Tr*mp was grabbing someone's female penis?

LangCleg · 03/02/2018 15:02

I have to warn you though that I'm clotted cream exclusionary.

Not being funny or owt, but I might have to assert the primacy of blancmange exclusion. Everyone knows blancmangephiles are the biggest oppressors of all.

MothQuandary · 03/02/2018 14:44

Oh Christ. I wish I hadn’t clicked on Datun’s link.

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