Bluestocking lock in!

Enjoy
Just caught an infiltrator I think, waiting for a response.

cheers!

I'm just leaving work in London, stuck on a late train which has ground to a halt, and I've not had a break all day and had to stay two hours extra so am having a much anticipated mini bottle of Pinot Grigio on the train!

Frankly ISay you should be giving yourself a massive pat on the back for having succeeded in attracting a competent male. And for having built a relationship in which you are not his de facto mum.

GuardianLions, it won't get anywhere, the CPS won't see a case to answer, not worth the public funds.

Anyone want to bet a tenner on it?

Hi people, sadly it's only Monday and I'm having a glass of wine. Oh dear.
Actually had a positive meeting today about discrimination! So it's a relaxing glass, and not an anaesthetic!

Because the stupid "rules" that say you "ought" to be good at xyz because of your sex, are just exactly that - stupid rules. You are good at whatever your personality and abilities make you good at. Same as your DH. Neither of you better or worse than the other.

Asking for help and being willing to learn are strengths, not weaknesses.

Pressed post too soon. Could someone just remind me that maybe it's ok to ask for help?

All this makes me wonder about DH. He does DIY, can sew better than I can, do housework better than I can and is equally good at taking care of the DC. Does this mean he is actually better at being a woman than I am?

Also, could you all help me swallow my pride and ask him to teach me how to use the sewing machine? I really hate asking for help with things I wanted to teach myself but I don't want to break the machine.

I also hate it because DH is better at everything than I am even the things I am stereo typically supposed to be better at. So if he teaches me, even though he is a good and patient teacher, it will still reinforce that little internal voice that tells me I am 'less than' because I couldn't do it by myself.

EverlastingSummer - what a lovely name!

was that the pregnant "man" article by any chance?

Another day, another Guardian comment deleted.

Merely for pointing out that, in Guardian-land, men can also have their eggs frozen for IVF.

[whistles]

Thanks Quentin
It's just weird because when she was building her career we'd be in touch nearly daily and see each other twice a month
Now she's achieved the major senior job, it's like she's looked at every minute of spare time and decided to fill it with more achievements

It's great if she's happy but I'm not sure she is

Or maybe the rushing off and never having time means I should take a hint and she doesn't want to be friends now

Guess I'll wait and see what happens

How's everyone else doing? I'm going to have another coffee before gym I think!

No one about?

I fancy a brandy or something.

I have a random moan. Probably an unfair one. Friend of mine is becoming more remote. At first I thought it was maybe just dying out but now when I see her she seems quite grumpy and dour. She is massively ambitious and has a big career with long hours, but has taken up studying as well (not work related, for fun). She travels at every possible opportunity but she did say the last time, they spent the first two days staying in because she was exhausted.

Understandably she is building in family time (husband and parents, no kids) so the way things are going, I can imagine it will be a struggle to see her more than a couple of times a year and I don't do well with friendships like that.

Also she has been so grumpy the last couple of times I saw her, it felt like I was a chore. She had time for one drink. She works round the corner.

It feels like a loss. Also I think she's finding me boring now. I don't have a big career or travel.

Sorry I am being boring now!

Oh dear
Are they still on about that? I was hoping they'd drop it.

Hi punters. I am on my second glass of wine and starting to fret about Jimi Savile's favourite police force finding the time to abuse their authority to force Twitter to doxx mums who call a spade a spade, while police forces in Scotland convict a comedian for tasteless jokes and the mythology of 'sex change' is enshrined in Scottish law.

Its all starting to resemble Germany in 1937...

Regular here, NC

Not here for booze but to say - last night I dreamt I was in every one of my old workplaces, looking for somewhere to get changed for a night out....and of course all the ladies' bathrooms were communal open bathrooms full of AGPs!!

no one here?

ach well, I'll ask in case anyone appears....are the terms "fountain pen" and "cartridge pen" used interchangeably these days?

I need a T shirt with the Dowager's quote "I hanker for a simpler world. Is that a crime?"

Hairy that's great

Are we still doing elephant jokes?

DS came up with a new variant on the elephant joke today (with a bit of an American twist).

How do you get a fifth elephant in a mini?

Put it in the trunk.

Thanks everyone much appreciated

Decided to tackle a manspreader on the Tube. He was so widely spread I had to move quite hard just to avoid being a tiny hedgehog ball on my seat. He didn't bat an eyelid at being shoved back into his territory, interesting.

Hugs river

quentin

Same here

A friend is going through a tragic and traumatic time

Just the worst thing i can think of

And i am so upset for her...but there is nothing i can do