Itscurtainsforyou - I struggle with why a man, identifying as a woman (and being sure about this), wouldn't have surgery to remove male genitalia.
Several reasons:
- It's major surgery and the results are often not great. It leads to infertility and loss of sexual feeling.
- Many men who identify as women have autogynephilia i.e. becoming sexually aroused at the idea of themselves as a woman. Keeping the penis allows them to do something with this arousal IYSWIM.
If they did, I don't think I'd have a problem with them going to a female prison (if it were up to me).
I would still have a problem. Men are on average bigger and stronger than women and much more violent. None of these factors are changed by genital surgery.
Is this case it seems that Tara is happy to have ambiguous gender (which is her right), but it makes it very difficult to know how/if she can access services which are segregated on the basis of sex. Is the answer to stop segregating on the basis of sex (obviously this may work better with toilets etc than prisons, safe spaces etc).
Tara identifies as a woman & would probably describe the penis as female.
Prison guidelines are that anyone with a gender recognition certificate (GRC) must be housed according to their legal sex. For trans people without a GRC, decisions are made on a case by case basis. You can get a GRC without having genital surgery. You currently need a diagnosis of gender dysphoria and 2 years 'living as' the desired sex.
This is why the self-ID proposals are a big deal - instead of those requirements you'd just have to sign a form.
The answer is absolutely not to stop segregating by sex, especially in situations that affect particularly vulnerable women like prisons. The answer IMO is to strengthen the sex based exceptions in the equality act and to provide whatever 3rd spaces reasonable trans people feel they need for their dignity and safety.