www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jun/17/we-didnt-recognise-that-he-was-dangerous-our-father-killed-our-mother-and-sister?CMP=fb_gu
The sons of Clair Hart, the woman who was murdered by her husband 5 days after leaving him, have spoken out about the way the media talks about men who kill. Her daughter Charlotte was also murdered.
It is a common theme in reporting of these cases, she must have done something to deserve it, maybe she had an affair, he loved her too much and this was his way of showing it.
An interesting point raised is does this style of reporting provide tacit permission to other would-be wife murderers that it's ok and justified to murder ones spouse. That it's normal to do so.
From the article.
He had recently searched for articles about men who murder their wives. One Google search read: “how many men kill their wives”. “I think he wanted to feel he wasn’t being different,
A different case but a few years ago a local woman was murdered, her body was found first and several days later her partner was arrested. I still remember the comments on the local newspaper which reported on it, ''I wonder what she did to him to make him snap'''. Again the newspaper was ''nice guy, quiet, totally unexpected'' etc etc.