Things men have called me and why.

A guy, same uni course as me, later shouted "you're a slut" after I went on 2 dates with him and then called it off without sleeping with him...

I wasn't upset, but I'd previously thought him a nice enough guy and fairly intelligent. I was so wrong.

Yes I've had a lot of aggression when not reacting "correctly" to a compliment or invitation, up to and including a man who got right in my face and was shouting about "taking this outside" ie he wanted a physical fight

Because most women will have had experienced of being 'complimented' by men and not giving an enthusiastic/grateful enough response and then ending up faced with aggression.
Gosh yes! A regular occurrence in nightclubs of my youth....them: you look amazing, fancy a shag? Me: no them: didnt fancy you anyway, you frigid cow/slag/dog

The aggression is not far below the surface

Yup, all of the above sexual and appearance based insults, presumably due to not wanting to shag/talk men who feel they have rights to my body/company/time.....so agree with the heartfelt desire to be just left the fuck alone..
Additionally, have also been called strident or aggressive when refusing to concede during debates/arguments; controlling when defining limits in behaviour or standards; cold or frigid when not wanting sex when partner does. Sigh .

The most memorable one for me was when one man nodded across a pub table at me, to his mate, and said - deliberately loudly enough that I could hear: 'look at the tits on it.'

IT??? I asked him if he was talking about me but he just laughed it off. Cunts.

I now live in an overseas city that is notorious for its street harassment. It's literally the second thing some people think of (after the famous big triangular pointy things that are the main tourist attraction ).

I occasionally, when walking downtown, get chatted up by some local chancer who is told 'no Thanks!' & goes away amiably enough.

Last night, walking from Tube to hotel in London, I was followed for 5 minutes by 4 guys young enough to be my sons. Their opening gambit was to tell me how tall I am, then when I ignored them they walked behind me telling me they were going to fuck me up, then when I turned round & told them to FOTTFSOF, they yelled abuse after me (fat/ugly/old/slag/whore etc etc).

I don't think British boys/men actually do this for its impact on women, tbh. I think they do this because the culture is so inherently rapey that that's how they win approval from their mates.

I've been called easy, slag, lesbian, sexy bitch, and frigid. Mainly though, I've had groups of men or boys announce as I happen to be walking past them what they'd like to do to me or ask me if I'll suck them off/let them put them put their cock up my arse etc. This was mostly as a teenager.
Weirdly, I actually found those times less intimidating than the occasions when I passed a group of men and they would simply all turn round to stare at me and go completely silent.

I've been called stuck up, bitch, and had all kinds of awful "I'd fuck that" etc but I've never been called a slag/whore/slut by a man. I have by a few women though.

I think random husbands getting an unfair pasting. I often tell women, I love your hair, your coat, your nails etc. Why is it ok for me but not him? If it's a genuine heartfelt compliment with no ulterior motive then what's the problem?

I think I really really fade into the background (probably deliberately) as I haven't had any of that -

When I was in school it was

"Lezzer"
"Sheman / shemale"

This thread has made me a bit tearful as I can't relate to it so much.
I had low self esteem when I was in my teens and men definitely took advantage of that. I remember one boyfriend asking me why I never made any noise during sex and it was because I didn't realise I was meant to. Surely he should have realised I was too young to be doing it if I didn't even enjoy it. I shudder now when I think of it. I'll be educating my dd and of course my Ds's thoroughly and making sure they know all about consent, no pressure and have high self esteems. I had no sexual education from my parents, it was literally no sex before marriage, dress modestly. The end.
Even now the word modest makes me grit my teeth.

What he said: You look like a slag
What I was doing: showing a new top to my boyfriend; we were madly in love, together for years, no history for this whatsoever. I left him the next day.

I hope my Dd ends up like you

So we learn behaviours as well. I never turn or react if I hear a car beeping.

My husband has noticed this and was really confused, didn't I hear that, he says. What if it's someone I know or a warning? Well, I won't see them / I won't receive the warning. Experience has taught me not to react, to ignore, to pretend I can't hear it, to try not to jump. No way am I turning when a car beeps even though these days it's more likely to be someone I know / a warning.

I mainly got called a lesbian or frigid a lot when I was younger when I turned men down

Bloody hell, Valentina, you've met some right un's!

I don't mind when women compliment me as they are unlikely to want anything back / turn if I don't respond how they want.

Why can't men just leave women alone, when we're out and about? Men don't get all this. They get left alone. Now I am older and have hit the age of invisibilty, I feel so much more relaxed and confident when I'm out and about. And I suddenly realised - this is how most men feel all the time! They don't go around the place getting pestered, shouted at, followed, stared at, leered at and all the rest of it. There are no eyes on them all the time, commentary on their looks, weight, clothes. No people who are much bigger than them aggressively propositioning them. How relaxing!

People always say that teenage girls are obsessed with their appearance and lack confidence. Recently I realised that is a quite normal reaction to all of the above!

There must have been some reaction Random? What did she do/say?

I would not like it if a random man came up and "intruded" to tell me I looked "amazing".

I want random men to leave me alone, I've always wanted them to do that.

No, I would have felt very wary and uncomfortable at what RandomHusband did. Seems a bit over the top? I like it when people just say "you look nice/ smart today" or a stranger (always women) say something like "I like your scarf". Anything more than that and I'm wary.

However, I would have loved something like what @RandomHusband did.

I can remember the names, not all of the circumstances.

Slag, slut, dog, man, clapped, ugly, bitch, cunt, fat, easy, sket, hoe, whore, mental, psycho, crazy, unstable, cumbucket, dirty, filthy, used-up, worthless, loose, prozzie, hood rat, always open...

We're really not all like this

And yet

One time I saw someone for the second time in a few weeks, otherwise no idea who they were. We were both somewhere with our respective kids. I went up to her, apologised for the intrusion and just told her I thought she looked amazing (she did); her overall look was fantastic and she really suited it. There was no 'intention' behind it, I just hoped she'd like the compliment.

Jeez. What has her looks got to do with you? It is all part of the same sexist bullshit that women have to look good and are only acceptable when they do.