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Things men have called me and why.

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CosmicCanary · 21/12/2017 15:08

Slag lots of times but this was the first.
I was 13 he was late teens.
My crime: I walked past him and did not look at him when he said "alright darling"

Whore
Countless times but the one that sticks in my memory.
Aged 16 he was in his 30s with his mates outside a pub.
My crime: i said no thank you when he asked me for a fuck.

Just a tart
Aged around 19. Him same age.
My crime: I declined his offer of a drink in front of his mates so i was labelled just a tart who was out for free drinks. Confused

Hysterical bitch
Aged 22. Him about same age.
My crime: I told him to fuck off after he repeatedly grabbed my arse while I was waiting at the bar.

prozzy
Aged 22. Him much older.
My crime: wearing a short skirt.

Quite a few years of all the above comments then:

Ugly bitch
Aged 39. Him mid 30s.
My crime: To say no he could not sit on my knee in the pub I was drinking in.

Fat slag
Me aged 40. Him late 20s.
My crime: Telling him to fuck off after he pushed me out of the way in a very long taxi que I had been stood in for 20 mins and I was next in line.

The last one ^^ was last Friday evening.

In all my years I have never called men vile names like I have recieved.
One because I am not rude and vile but more importantly because I fear they would attack me if I spoke to them the same way.

The younger me used to put up with it keep my head down and move out of their way.
The older me fights back a bit but I am still scared they will hit me if I do.

Feel free to list your own.

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ApocalypseNowt · 21/12/2017 19:59

I've been called ugly a lot too. Sometimes I wish I was pretty but I think i'm a nice person and I'd never shout horrible things at anyone.

One thing that sticks in my mind is recently I was standing in my front garden minding my own business when a car came up the street and parked nearby. The door opened and a child's voice started shouting "you in the garden...you're FAT.....you're FAT" on and on. The child's father seemed to think it was funny Sad

Misspilly88 · 21/12/2017 19:50

'Would you fuck that?' Said to builder friend about me as I waddled down my street at 41 weeks pg. In 30'C heat. As if I was some sort of exotic offering.

Isadora2007 · 21/12/2017 19:50

I was called a fat cunt in the softplay recently. By a woman.

Actually I’ve been called more things by women than men. Beeped at by men, maybe even whistled at back in the day. But name calling has been more from females.

Misspilly88 · 21/12/2017 19:47

cracker that is awful. I'm so sorry. Also, i dont know you, but i know you're not ugly. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/12/2017 19:47

I've been called all those things, but by as many females as males tbh.

Except fat slag - I've never been fat Grin

Cracker09jacker · 21/12/2017 19:43

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Anniegetyourgun · 21/12/2017 19:06

Funny, really, isn't it, how many men call us "slag" for not sleeping with them (or not being attractive enough to sleep with in their view). Isn't a slag supposed to be, you know, the opposite?

I still get "slag" occasionally, but it's more likely to be "dried-up old hag" these days, and told "no wonder no-one wants you" even though they have no idea whether I am shacked up with the Brigade of Guards. For a bit of variety it's "fat cow". Frankly I am not too bothered if some random bod who is younger than some of my own children doesn't fancy me. I'd actually rather he didn't. Oh, and these charming comments tend to be because I have said no to them in the course of my job, or have rumbled some threadbare excuse. They do so hate being rumbled. I just smile when they start hurling insults because it means that's all they've got.

Wishfulmakeupping · 21/12/2017 18:42

A fucking slag because I wouldn't go home with him 🤔

'I'd have a go on that' no you really won't dickhead

'Ugly bitch /fat bitch' various people

Datun · 21/12/2017 18:39

“The trouble with you is that you argue like a man“

What on earth do you mean?

“You just don’t back down!”

Always sticks in my memory.

MaidOfStars · 21/12/2017 17:50

What he shouted: fat, ugly cunt
What I was doing: running.
I didn’t take the words ‘fat’ (I’m a size 6) or ‘ugly’ (he was behind me so couldn’t see my face) seriously. ‘Cunt’ got to me though, even though I use it fairly frequently.

What he said: Bring your delicious cunt over here
What I was doing: walking past a group of lads who wanted someone to take a photo of them all.

What he said: You look like a slag
What I was doing: showing a new top to my boyfriend; we were madly in love, together for years, no history for this whatsoever. I left him the next day.

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CosmicCanary · 21/12/2017 15:45

You remember every comment? Can't say I could.

Blimey I would be here all day Grin

Assasin is correct they are just the ones that stand out amongst all of them.

I have 10 yo DDs and I worry that they too will go through what I have and continue to go through.
I am torn between wanting them to stand up for themselves and to not be intimidated as I have been but also fearful that such advice could lead to them being attacked.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 21/12/2017 15:34

I doubt it's every comment, just the ones that stuck in her memory. Because they were either scary or deeply unpleasant.

DoculamentDoculament · 21/12/2017 15:24

You remember every comment? Can't say I could.