You can't be a feminist if

Once saw someone claim that a women who has affairs with married or attached men can't be a feminist. Although I think if they have in the past but now repent, that is OK.

But then someone else said that Germaine Greer might not be the most sisterly of women in that respect, and no-one would dispute that she is a feminist. So that was that.

Apparently I can't be a feminist because I support trans people.

What do you mean by support?

I would say you cannot be a femnist if you actively oppose the rights of women to sex based protections. As so many who 'support' trans people seem to do.

Because i don't think feminism is a club, it's a way of analysing the world, so yes I think men can have a feminist viewpoint.

I have no interest in telling my son he's inferior but when he spouts 'humourless feminist' garbage from media outlets, I do talk to him about stereotypes and who benefits from disparaging feminism, and I do encourage him to question the 'facts' he is presented with.

I was told I wasn't a feminist because I don't change light bulbs. It's true I don't change them, but it's purely practical - I have to faff about getting the step ladder out and putting it away after, but DH can reach by himself. I changed them when I lived alone!

. But feminism needs to be wholly about women.

I strongly disagree. Feminism needs to be about everyone. It affects men too. For example, every man that was ever told not to show emotion because it's feminine.
These things impact all of us.

If you describe vaginas as being hairy.

It's your pubis mons that has the most hair.

Vaginas are internal organs, like ears, although you can poke things into them, unlike ears - don't go poking in your ears. Like ears, vaginas are self cleansing.

But feminism needs to be wholly about women.

is where I wont stick to the script for any still interested. On one hand they talk about the patriarchy and then on the next say feminism is just about women. It isn't, it is about how men behave not just women as victims of a 'social construct' and until men are considered as part of feminism nothing will change. But undoubtedly I'll now be told I'm not a feminist once again.

I don't think men can be feminists. They can be feminist allies, sure. But feminism needs to be wholly about women.

Or you have a penis. The end.
What? Of course you can be a feminist if you're a man. Men can want equality for men and women, it benefits them too

because I have a husband and son and I wouldn't want my son to grow up in a world where he thinks he is stupid or inferior or to blame for everything wrong with the world.

Because I read the OP and saw the funny side

And what is that, Roman?

Because I disagree with most of the feminism that’s discussed on here.

@Increasinglymiddleaged I'd love to know what "the script" is! That sounds like something I might not stick to either!

I think that some women sadly see feminism as a competition. Unfortunately until women stand together and accept differences in opinions we will get nowhere. I've been told on here I'm not a feminist because I won't parrot the script. But I am because I believe in equality for women which we don't have as yet. That is what feminism is to me.

Well I think this is a great idea for a thread, and I’ve learned stuff from it already.

Unfortunately, it has never occurred to me before that the dairy and meat industry are inherently problematic for feminists, and that thought will stay with me forever now. But...bacon...

I havent been told I can't be a feminist

But i was told by a friend that i had put womens rights back by 100 (yes 100...count em) years because i dont put petrol in the car

Single handed put rights back by 100 years!

Men can be pro feminism but they can't be feminists.
Just like one can be pro a paraplegic movement that fights for paraplegic equal rights but unless you are a paraplegic, you have no right to call yourself one, just an ally to them in their fight to achieve equality.

Because I have long hair and wear skirts. Because I like Game of Thrones. Or because I decided to work in a low-paid, typically 'women's work' field instead of having a STEM career or something. (Yes, I know that last choice wasn't made in a vacuum, but class had a lot to do with it too and it doesn't make me unfeminist!)

Rookie mistake OP. You should have put 'lighthearted' in the title you heathen

I’m a Catholic SAHM.

Tbf though only internet people have implied to me that being religious or staying-at-home is unfeminist. My RL friends are much less black and white in their thinking.

Personally, I don't think it matters whether men call themselves feminists or allies. What matters is the behaviour that is underneath -which in both cases could be considered feminist-aligning or misogynist.

I think that women are able to make their own choices even if that means getting married young and promptly having children, changing my name upon marriage and, being a SAHM.