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Boys and their mothers

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Ava6 · 02/12/2017 05:09

I don't have a brother so I've never observed this in action. I sincerely wonder: how early do boys start understanding that they were born into the high caste of humans while their mothers belong to the low one? How do they reconcile this with being totally dependent on an 'inferior being' and her being the most important person in their world for a long time?

I know that this starts happening really young in the really partriarchal environments. But what about the secular 1st World one?

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Battleax · 02/12/2017 07:07

Reminiscent of a previous FWR habitue.

FreshHorizons · 02/12/2017 07:02

I have looked and OP does have other bizarre threads this morning. I would suggest she gets some counselling to get over her feelings of inferiority and then she could be a better role model.

MyKidAreTakingMySanity · 02/12/2017 06:43

My son worships me. There's nothing his mum can't do.

Battleax · 02/12/2017 06:41

Weird.

PastaOfMuppets · 02/12/2017 06:36

"I haven't seen this so you are obviously not only incorrect but hysterical/an angry feminist"

FreshHorizons · 02/12/2017 06:22

As the mother of 3 sons and the only girl with 2 brothers I would say never. What utter rubbish! Perhaps you have issues that need dealing with.

PastaOfMuppets · 02/12/2017 06:17

It really sank in for my brother when he was 17 or 18 - when he became an adult and was at uni. He saw that our single DM did everything for us and that our DD didn't need to do women's work. Social media exacerbated it and as soon as he had one GF break his heart he became a misogynist.

isthistoonosy · 02/12/2017 05:46

I say around 3 or 4 yrs old they start to understand girls and boys are different and may start to think men and women can't do the same jobs. But they would see so many women in caring roles they would be fine about their mum in that role for them. I don't think my 3 and 4 yr old realise they are dependent on me amd their dad. In their eyes they can get food from the fridge, water from the tap, use the toilet, dress themselves we are helpful rather than necessary.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 02/12/2017 05:43

I don't think my son thinks this. In fact I know he doesn't. There is nothing in his background which would have led him to think his way.

His father and I are in the same profession and our career progressions have been the same; if anything mine eclipses his father's. Within the home there is nothing we did which would have led him to think that. Domestic responsibilities were either outsourced or shared equally.

Both his grandmothers worked, both lived independently of their husband/ former husband.

He went to a private co-ed school which I am confident encouraged and expected all their pupils to be high achieving.

I never banged any feminist drums. Oh I know the wisdom on FWR is that the patriarchy infects and imposes itself on all men but the situation you describe bears no relation whatsoever to me and my son.

could see perfectly well from his immediate family, wider family and our circle of friends that no one thinks women are lower caste or inferior and I have never seen or heard him express such a view.

stoneagemum · 02/12/2017 05:34

Ava6 what is your real issue? Your posts this morning are bizarre

Battleax · 02/12/2017 05:28

Just to be clear OP; You have no brothers, and also no sons, no reasonable men friends and no decent male acquaintances?

PrincessoftheSea · 02/12/2017 05:26

Crazy post

Battleax · 02/12/2017 05:26

Decent humans don't have to reconcile much, do they?

Ipigglemustdie · 02/12/2017 05:24

Biscuit had a bad day?

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