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Casual sexism - being an MD

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rightsofwomen · 23/11/2017 14:50

The email I have just sent to an accountancy firm.

To whom it may concern,

I have recently set up my own Limited company. As a result I have been
inundated with letters from banks and accountancy firms, like yours.
While I appreciate this is a good way for you to find new clients, I
am afraid you lost any interest from me after the second word of your
letter, which is "Sir" ie Dear Sir....

I am astonished that you default to assuming an MD is male.

It is quite clear from my name ([obvious female name) that I am female.

Please correct this.

Best wishes,

[obvious female name]

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Fishfingersandwichnocheese · 23/11/2017 18:28

I remember once as a sales assistant I was given the talk of helping sort through CVs with the assistant manager (a gay man if it matters - not sure if it does.)

One was addressed to “Dear Sirs”

The manager was a woman.

The CV went in the bin.

I loathe it. It’s lazy. Sir or madam if you aren’t sure.

RebelRogue · 23/11/2017 15:51

That's just dumb. Fair enough if they don't want to assume or unsure, but that's why Dear Sir/Madam is perfectly acceptable. Why is the default male?Hmm

LuxuryWoman2017 · 23/11/2017 15:42

Email is entirely reasonable, women not wanting to look 'ridiculous' is part of the problem and why these things persist I think.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 23/11/2017 15:37

Yep

I dont think your email is unreasonable either

Basic homework for the firm concerned

DJBaggySmalls · 23/11/2017 15:02

If you arent sure of a persons sex, the correct form of address is 'Dear Sir or Madam''. Its not correct to speak to someone who is obviously a woman as 'Sir'.
So yanbu.

rightsofwomen · 23/11/2017 15:00

Why Valderal?

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thedancingbear · 23/11/2017 14:58

I'm a feller. I think your letter is entirely reasonable.

I'm a lawyer by trade, and it occurs to me that the default form of address for formal correspondence in litigation and the like is 'dear sirs[plural]...yours faitfhfully'. Ridiculously, it's never struck me before how gendered this is. But what are the alternatives? 'Sirs/mesdames' is obviously ridiculous.

Valderal · 23/11/2017 14:53

I think that's a ridiculous email to send.

But I'm sure there will be many who applaud you

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