Culture you inbibed as a kid that you find inappropriate for kids these days:

Indiana Jones :(

In the first film it's mentioned a couple of times that Marian was a child when he became involved with her. So he's a paedo.

The second film is quite racist about the Indians, and horribly misogynistic.

The first time they have sex Bart rapes her!

I don't remember that! Jeezus that poor woman knew some terrible men in her lifetime!

The Dragonriders of Pern series by Anne McCaffrey.

I absolutely loved them as a tween, went to re-read them recently and gave up partway through the first in disgust. So rapey.

The first time they have sex Bart rapes her! I swear it impacted how I dealt with sexual assaults that happened to me in subsequent years. I honestly didn’t view them as ‘that bad’.

Oh Yes! Paul's awful too - the clothes he buys her, even before they are engaged. And Julian (husband no 1) is horrendously abusive. I don't remember that Bart treats her particularly badly, but then he is cheating on his wife with a younger version of her (admittedly he doesn't realise Cathy is Corrine's daughter, but he's still a cheat.)

I don't think there are any actual good people in those books. The mother and the grandmother are meant to be these terrible baddies- but all the goodies are pretty repugnant as well.

Actually the doctor almost as bad! Isn’t she 15 and he keeps saying things like “I’m a good person but I’m just a man.”

Honestly I was gobsmacked re-reading them all.

At 8/9 I was desperate to read my mum's copy of 'Mommy Dearest' (also with a Christina and Christopher), thinking it sounded like a lovely story about how nice mummies are. My mum always seemed to have 'misplaced' it when I asked - finally got my hands on it and had a rude awakening. I now don't allow wire hangers in the house either!

Chris is so creepy in all the flowers in the attic books! the way he rapes her because she kissed her step father, but she belongs to him (Chris) and then the way he hangs around when she's with Paul (admittedly a dirty old man) and one time (though it might be just after Julian has beaten the shit out of her) she's in bed, and someone is there with her, and it's only when she puts her hand is his hair that she realises it's her brother not her husband. She later says that, when there are complications during one of her births, he pressures her into getting sterilised -she wouldn't have done it if he hadn't have been there, and he got her to do it so they could be together. And when she finally marries Paul, Chris (a doctor) advises that they're probably OK to have sex (even though there's something wrong with Paul's heart) and they do - and Paul dies. So then Chris takes Cathy away to California, where nobody knows them, and pretends that they are a married couple.

I never liked Cathy - but Chris is a terrible human being!

bummy I loved the first one, didn't enjoy the second as much, got halfway through the third and gave in. All 5 are now languishing in a charity shop somewhere.

I just read all the flower in the attic books again.

Lots of rape. Always the girl’s fault for the way she acts or dresses. Even when it’s her brother .

Then after the rape the guy always says sorry and the girl always falls in love with him.

In one book she gets the shit beaten out of her by her husband and it’s her fault for not loving him enough.

What the actual fuck?

tiegrr go on then, you've convinced me. I imagine my teenager will be looking at me like 😐 I saved them all thinking one day she might read them....but I doubt it. Not sure about the drink thing though, I'd be on the floor! I used to love Elizabeth and Todd, I remember crying when he moved!

Oh almost forgot
Rita, Sue and Bob too! My parents genuinely thought as Black Lace were in it it was ok for their teens to watch.

@metalmum Go for it! I'm in my 30s. Turn it into a game though - have a drink every time the twins perfect size six figure is mentioned, or the four minutes between them, or every time Mr Collins shows up to 'chaperon' somewhere inappropriately

DIsney has been changing plots to make them more acceptable to “modern” sensibilities for over fifty years now. That’s why the princess doesn’t sleep for a hundred years in Disney Sleeping Beauty.

My go to example of things that’s were accepted without question is lovely cuddly Flanders and Swann. To write one song about how hilarious date rape is might be carelessness. To write two looks premeditated. Have some Madeira M’Dear has lyrical wit on its side and at least the hilarious rapist is portrayed as a bad guy, but Tonga is an absolute shocker.

Sevendown Wish you were here is 15 so not a kids film anyway. I loved that film, Emily Lloyd was brilliant in it.

Tiegrr I have about 200 Sweet Valley High books in the attic. Do you reckon I'm too old to re-read them in my 40's? !

Short answer: Most cultural output from the past.

Looking back, one particular source of is how my friends, as young teens, seemed caught up in the romance of Pretty Woman. Pretty Woman!!! OMFG.

Just all the childrens stories...I look at them now and the ones that aren't full of raging misogyny and gender stereotyping are all about how adults don't listen to and blame children who are then forced into to doing things to save the day that they really shouldn't be doing....

Sevendown, yes I agree, I'm not sure what wish you were here was classified, but I didn't need to watch it back then!

Thomas the tank engine is horrendous.
I am not allowing my child to watchit any longer. So much 'teaching them a lesson' morality.. No talking to others, sharing perspectives and developing empathy and understanding. No, x has done wrong, I know best, and will teach a lesson. Not to mention the lack of female characters, the authoritarianism and snobbishness. There is absolutely no need for it, although it was beautifully modelled and filmed. What a waste. Ivor the Engine is loads better.

We are working our way through Disney films I loved as a child and a shockingly large number have something pretty racist in them. I'm actually quite surprised that some of the films haven't been edited to take the awful bits out by now - for example, in Aristocats there is one character who is extremely problematic, but they are only on screen for about three minutes if you wanted to redraw and you'd only have to lose about ten seconds to massively improve the situation.

If that's the case then why is it always the woman who is in distress, needing a man to save her?

Not true. Icantreachthepretzels has been eloquent about Beauty and the Beast.

The young women in the Nordic version, East of the Sun, West of the Moon is as feisty as you could hope for and she rescues the prince.

In The Snow Queen it is Gerda, assisted along the way by wise women, a princess and a robber girl (the head of a band of robbers) who rescues hapless Kay. And the Snow Queen isn't punished for kidnapping him.

Gretel and Hansel worked well as an equal team and at the end Gretel rescues Hansel.

Even Rapunzel, once she got out of the tower managed, perfectly well as a single mother of twins comes to the rescue of the blinded prince.

Wish you were here- 80s British film, not for kids at all!

I'm another one who hated Grease as a teenager when it first came out. I think because I was the spoddy geeky girl - and was relatively at home in my own skin (insofar as a teenager can be) as the spoddy geeky girl. So it was infuriating to have this film telling me I had to dress in skin tight leather with a poodle perm to be accepted. (I also think watching it in retrospect that there's the ingredients of a brilliant, if totally non-feminist film in there, but that ONJ and JT had no sexual chemistry together at all.)

Also hate, loathe and detest beauty and the beast and always have done. It's basically like a patriarchy version of an Al Quaeda training manual - "love your man enough and he will change." BULLSHIT! (And you still see that on so many relationship threads on here - there was one recently where someone wanted advice on how to live with a smelly slob who crapped on the toilet seat and expected her to clean it up - but wouldn't countenance leaving him because "she loved him". Bangs head against wall in frustration.)

Woosh was the sound of entire film plots going over my head.

I think that is something that adults often forget when they worry about what they can and can't show their children. I used to watch 'A Funny Thing Happened On the Way to the Forum' loads when I was a kid. it is my second favourite movie of all time, but to this day I can watch it and catch a joke and suddenly have this dawning realisation of 'blimey, that's a bit rude.'
I've been watching it since my earliest infancy, I was at university before I realised that the house of courtesans were being sold off as sex slaves (they talk about buying a 'wife' -so child friendly!) or that when Marcus Licus said 'don't touch the merchandise on the way out it shows every mark' he was talking about the women!

I got the romance, I got the pratfalls - I just really didn't get the sex jokes. And it's 90% sex jokes!

My parents let me watch so much sexually rather inappropriate stuff. All the sex went over my head though. Victor Victoria where today is essentially paying for sex. Bridget jones "full frontal". Lots of blame runner type sex scenes where man pretty much forces himself on woman who is not keen. Pretty woman. Woosh was the sound of entire film plots going over my head.