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Can I still be a feminist....confused

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genehuntswife · 28/10/2017 09:22

Trying to cut a long story short.
I was a SAHM for a long time, loved it and have a fab husband who has always treated me as an equal , finances totally shared etc. When eldest became a teen we moved to a big 4 bed house and I started work as a childminder ( still love it) to help pay for the extra costs.
Eldest has now left home, youngest about to go to uni next year...and I’ve started to get a lot of joint pain , my mum had quite bad arthritis and I think that’s the way I’m heading. So lots of talking with hubby and we’ve decide that next year we’ll sell the house, move to a nice two bedder and I’ll stop working and take on the bulk of the home making and he’ll keep bringing in the money.
I’m happy staying at home, trust him completely financially and it will help a lot not having young children to lift etc.
But..I’m only 47 , just got into feminism and I just have a feeling I’m letting the side down.
I’d like your thoughts please

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salmonofwisdom · 28/10/2017 09:32

Agree with SonicBoomBoom! Although there are plenty of ways that you can still support the feminist cause, if that's what you are worried about, e.g. read feminist literature, volunteer at a women's shelter, donate to charities that work with and for women, get involved in local politics. The important thing here is to do something that makes yourself and others around you happy and healthy.

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genehuntswife · 28/10/2017 09:28

Thank you, I think it’s the “ relying on a man” thing. Even though as a couple we’ve always been a team. I suppose as feminist whose eyes have only been recently opened I’m over thinking things a bit.

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LeCroissant · 28/10/2017 09:24

How would you working while in pain help 'the side'?

SonicBoomBoom · 28/10/2017 09:24

You don't unnecessarily put yourself through physical pain for feminism. That is absolutely, 100%, NOT what Feminism is about.

ISaySteadyOn · 28/10/2017 09:24

I don't think so. I wish I knew where this bizarre idea that you can't be a feminist if not every action is feminist came from.

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