Gender critical people- do you use preferred pronouns?

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Lemonjello · 12/09/2017 14:29

I find this a really hard one, being very gender critical but also not wanting to offend. I'd be interested in other people's views and also, if you refuse to use them, is it a cross you would die on, so to speak? I.e. would you be be willing to lose your job for example. Can you in fact be fired for this?

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TooDamnSarky · 12/09/2017 16:17

I don't see the way that they present as being relevant. In my book making an effor to look female doesn't make you any more female (or vice versa).

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Lemonjello · 12/09/2017 16:15

Yes that's a very good way of looking at it Toodamnedsarky.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 12/09/2017 16:15

I don't want to be forced to use them, especially for someone who hasn't changed the way they present or only done so minimally.

TooDamnSarky · 12/09/2017 16:14

I will always use preferred pronouns. I don't know many transgender people, but I consider all the trans people that I've met to be victims of this fucked up way of thinking. I will never do anything to make their everyday lives even more difficult than they are.
(And I'd be fired if I didn't.)

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Lemonjello · 12/09/2017 16:10

Thanks for replying 🙂
So you would rather not use them?

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AssassinatedBeauty · 12/09/2017 16:02

I would use them at work, mainly because I'm cowardly and would be worried about getting into trouble. I'm fairly sure that deliberately and repeatedly not using someone's choice of pronouns is considered to be transphobia. It would therefore probably be something you could be disciplined for and eventually lose your job if you kept doing it after warnings. I think I'd try and get around it by using names or other ways of phrasing things as much as I could.

Thankfully I don't think it is likely to be an issue for me where I work currently.

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