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Why are feminists so aggressive?

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BertrandRussell · 07/09/2017 14:11

This, or something like it, it always being asked. People say that the FWR board on here is scary and hounds out people whose faces don't fit. That women are always being told they can't be feminists if.......And so on. And so on.

In my experiences, you are much more likely to get an aggressive response if you express a feminist point of view than the other way round. Is it just me? Or am I missing something?

There have been plenty of interesting feminists threads recently, where everyone seems to be holding their own- but the same old accusations keep coming up.

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Collidascope · 07/09/2017 14:28

I don't get the 'feminism board is scary' thing. This is a part of the site where I feel really comfortable posting. I don't expect universal agreement when I post something but where there is disagreement, its almost always well-reasoned, articulated in a polite and not personal way, and you can engage with it. With aibu, there are some posts that are so mind-bogglingly rude and ill thought out, I just can't even begin to engage.

BenLui · 07/09/2017 14:22

It's because none of us can take a joke apparently.

Whole swathes of humourless women just desperate to aggressively pounce on some poor man who was "only joking".

glenthebattleostrich · 07/09/2017 14:21

It's cos we hate all the menz so much. We can't go groping them, harrassing them in the street, assaulting them, attacking their spaces and such like so it makes us furious... ...

Or hormones

TheSparrowhawk · 07/09/2017 14:21

I think it's a totally understandable psychological reaction. When you've grown up to think the world is a lovely, fair place and everyone is looking out for your best interests, someone coming along and saying that, actually, the deck is stacked massively against you can be quite painful - it's not surprising that it comes across as aggressive even when the words themselves are very reasonable. It's a defence mechanism to an extent - a rejection of a very painful realisation.

Also, women are very powerfully trained, on a subconscious level, not to annoy men in any way because if any of those men want to make us pay, they can and they will. So we are not to criticise men at all. Any criticism of men is perceived as aggressive because it feels like inciting violence, 'asking for' retribution. Again, an understandable feeling in the circumstances.

Of course, 'calm down dear' is also a misogynistic silencing tactic.

honeysucklejasmine · 07/09/2017 14:19

😂😂

Anecdoche · 07/09/2017 14:19

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BertrandRussell · 07/09/2017 14:17

Bloody typical. Your internalized misogyny is so ingrained that you're telling me to strip off-you're just treating me as a sex object......

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HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 07/09/2017 14:16

It's so fucking depressing. Same old bullshit, another generation. Sorry I can't be more erudite.

Seeingadistance · 07/09/2017 14:15

Maybe because anything less than total unthinking compliance while looking pretty and letting the men talk is considered aggressive?

I think it's just another silencing tactic, and after all, what could be less appealing than a gasp angry woman who won't "lighten up and shut up"?

honeysucklejasmine · 07/09/2017 14:14

Ha! Strop off.

honeysucklejasmine · 07/09/2017 14:14

Oh, how disappointing. I had hoped to reply with a oh so witty "why are you such a twat?" but I can't. Feminists are fun ruiners. 😉

I think it's a shut down technique. Like creating a straw man. Just claim we're far too unreasonable to debate with and strip off. We can't explain our point of view if noone will talk to us.

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