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Would you ever disown a family member for their messed up thinking?

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Turquoise0wl · 24/08/2017 15:21

Just want to know if I'm taking this too far.

Thanks Smile

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Fruitcocktail6 · 24/08/2017 16:26

I didn't mean anything to do with your age or savings. I meant your talking about disowning your mother, not some sleazy cousin or something. It's a bit dramatic.

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Turquoise0wl · 24/08/2017 16:24

Hmm I'm not trying to force her... I don't speak about it with her. However, there are many comments made from her towards me about my views. I guess I just ignore it, yeah? Confused What do you mean 'my situation'? I might be 18, but I've been old enough to work for 2 years and have saved.

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Fruitcocktail6 · 24/08/2017 16:11

Disown is too strong, particularly in your situation. Just don't speak about it with her, she's clearly not interested and you can't force her.

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Turquoise0wl · 24/08/2017 16:08

I try and discuss it with her and I get a "you're giving me a headache, your views are odd, let's just move on" but it's impossible to move on when it comes up in so many different situations.

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EBearhug · 24/08/2017 16:06

It does very much depend. I'd first want to know why they think the way they do, and whether they're open to debate. OTOH, if they turned out to be a dyed-in-the-wool white supremacist who thinks places in the Middle East have got it right on women's rights (and can ignore the cognitive dissonance that must surely occur with these two viewpoints together,) then probably disowning them is probably necessary for the maintenance of physical and mental health.

Can't imagine it would do my blood pressure any good, anyway.

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Turquoise0wl · 24/08/2017 16:02

I'm 18 and have no children... It's the arguing that drives me mad.

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CatsAreAssholes · 24/08/2017 16:00

Why sort of things does she say?

If it's low level I use it as a chance to point score and teach my kids Wink

'Look kids, nana thinks women shouldn't drive if their husbands are in the car! Isn't that funny? It's because nana was born before cars and women didn't drive the horse and buggies.'

'That's a bit silly and sexist wasn't it kids! Tell nana we know that's not true and of course a woman can be president!"

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DJBaggySmalls · 24/08/2017 15:56

Yes I have done. I dont want to give too many details but I am NC with my family. The reasons are serious.
Its not easy to do, you will get judged by people who dont get how bad things can be. But life gets easier.

If you have kids ask yourself if they are safe with those people, if its possible they could be harmed by actions or negligence. If you cant do it for yourself you can do it for them.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 24/08/2017 15:54

I wouldn't disown her, just nod and smile, nod and smile.

MrGHardy · 24/08/2017 15:54

Yes, if these views were significantly messed up I would.

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Turquoise0wl · 24/08/2017 15:52

It's actually my mum - just making out your the odd one for being a feminist. Too many arguments.

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CatsAreAssholes · 24/08/2017 15:49

For saying "haha chicks..." probably not. He'd probably just get a punch in the elbow and this Hmm face.

For misogyny or vaw, yes.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 24/08/2017 15:47

You haven't actually told us anything.

SpaghettiAndMeatballs · 24/08/2017 15:43

What family member? What thinking? Just thinking or actions too? Really you have to actually have some substance or there's nothing to discuss

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Turquoise0wl · 24/08/2017 15:29

I don't see how it doesn't make sense? This is in feminism chat... I think it's probably obvious Hmm

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EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 24/08/2017 15:28

What's the messed up thinking? 😊

TwitterQueen1 · 24/08/2017 15:26

How on earth do you expect anyone to make any sense of this? Try providing a lot more information with a genuine question at the end of it.

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