Before we got married we had sex every day. It was great for both of us. 2 children, 15 months apart, clearly the daily activity was off the agenda. 20 years on ...I thought I had cleverly re-educated him over the years to understand that mothers were on duty 24/7 for their children, and that sex had to be a consequence of love and affection rather than a duty. Oh how wrong. He's been amazing in that over time he's accepted that sex is ? Once a week? Sometimes less. but now the children are disappearing off to uni etc, he thinks daily sex is - ought to be - back on the agenda 'just because'.
I can't do 'just because.' I want affection, conversation, consideration, and then I'll want to return the affection. Help?? We do love each other, there's just an expectation gap in there somewhere.