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Why do men use prostitutes?

392 replies

QuentinSummers · 01/08/2017 06:12

Guardian have published a summary of a research project here
www.theguardian.com/society/2010/jan/15/why-men-use-prostitutes
Men were asked what would put them off. A criminal record, an ASBO or their employer being told was the answer. Finding out the woman was pimped or coerced apparently not so much.
Not sure how that squares with the full decriminalisation model.

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AnyFucker · 14/01/2018 23:58

I also think people who use porn fall into that category.

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/01/2018 23:57

No, I said "other men who won't listen". Not all men. Just the ones who think prostitution is acceptable/inevitable even though they don't use prostitutes themselves.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:55

Because they are inadequate people, basically, and appear to have the empathy gene removed from their psyche

Is, imo, the correct answer.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:55

So all men won't listen?

Try painting any other group on here like you do with men and see how quick your arse is banned.

If you can't see the problem then there's nothing I can do.

AnyFucker · 14/01/2018 23:53

Because they are inadequate people, basically, and appear to have the empathy gene removed from their psyche

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/01/2018 23:53

Honestly? I could be as polite and deferential as you like and the men that want to use prostitutes will not listen. It's not them that need persuading, it's other men who don't think it's an issue. And they won't listen to polite deferential women either, as all of human history shows.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:49

So, women be nicer and more polite before we listen to you

Honestly? Aye. It's like anything really, if you want folk to listen to you properly then it's a good idea not to shout rapists at them. It's a hang up for most funny enough.

I'm not your enemy, believe me.

And I've never went to a prostitute just to clarify, looking at Datuns post my grammar might give that impression.

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/01/2018 23:45

So, women be nicer and more polite before we listen to you?

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:41

You say the arrow misses, I say it doesn't. Where does that leave us?

I'm telling you that folk are turned off these issues due to the man hating language. I'm not making it up or using it to turn an argument a certain way. I'm saying it because I know this for a fact.

I spend far too much time on football forums. I'm constantly pushing the trans stuff and have peaked quite a few. These same hairy arsed people won't take anything into account if it comes from a feminist due to the language used by them.

Who is that helping?

It's actually similar to Trans itself. I would instinctively have sympathy yet the obnoxious language they tend to use makes be dislike them, and then disliking their 'cause' comes naturally.

You can't see how this would happen?

Datun · 14/01/2018 23:34

I don't use prostitutes or watch Porn (I did untill reading I think it's Datun on here)

Cool.

It is people like you fucking their students. Stop doing it please.

It doesn't work that way round. That seed just falls on stony ground. It doesn't tend to drive women into a self righteous frenzy of defensiveness.

With men you can say NAMALT (not all men are like that).

But for women it's HAWALT. Hardly any women are like that.

So that particular arrow will miss its target almost every time.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:21

That's not the reason why you've turned your nose up to feminism now is it?

I mentioned feminist discourse, not feminism. There are lots if things I disagree with yet I still read and listen.

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/01/2018 23:19

That's not the reason why you've turned your nose up to feminism now is it?

Xenophile · 14/01/2018 23:19

Not yet Bertrand, but you know it's going to come along at some point.

We're also all going to be horrible old prudes.

Oh, and our husbands will all be with them having a great time, because we're so vile, or something.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:18

He knows exactly what I meant Assassinated, he's choosing to side with men who use women in that way

And there we have it. Irrational and untrue nonsense. Exactly why folk turn their noses up at feminist discourse.

BertrandRussell · 14/01/2018 23:17

Have we had the I know someone who works as a prostitute because she loves sex and earns megabucks yet? Oh, and what about feminists despise prostitute women? If there weren’t prostitutes there’d be more rspe?

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/01/2018 23:13

In your opinion. No one who isn't looking for an argument would think that those descriptions are what anyone here thinks of women. It's the actions of the men that use them that is being described.

Xenophile · 14/01/2018 23:13

He knows exactly what I meant Assassinated, he's choosing to side with men who use women in that way.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:13

The fact that you care more about the language I used to describe what some men do, than the actions of those men really says absolutely everything about you, and nothing whatever about me

OK. Where did I allude that I care more about one than the other?

This should be good Smile

BertrandRussell · 14/01/2018 23:12

Because they are misogynist arseholes who hate women.

Next question?

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:11

She's not describing them as wankrags. She's saying that men are using them as if they are wankrags. And objecting to that, because clearly they are not and shouldn't be used that way

This is a ridiculous interpretation.

Xenophile · 14/01/2018 23:11

The fact that you care more about the language I used to describe what some men do, than the actions of those men really says absolutely everything about you, and nothing whatever about me.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:10

*Bullshit.

Nice try to worm your way out of it, but, bullshit*

Worm my way out of what?

Xenophile · 14/01/2018 23:07

Bullshit.

Nice try to worm your way out of it, but, bullshit.

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/01/2018 23:07

She's not describing them as wankrags. She's saying that men are using them as if they are wankrags. And objecting to that, because clearly they are not and shouldn't be used that way.

EamonnWright · 14/01/2018 23:03

I was talking about your description of these women as wankrags or whatever. You obviously can't be trusted to treat people like human beings so I would rather you weren't around my children.