Why do men use prostitutes?

I think some men will pay for sex because they want to experience a woman (or man) who fits their idealistic preferences. So maybe an 18 year old with a slim toned body, or a big breasted older woman, or someone of a different nationality.
It's far too easy now to go onto the Internet and scroll through all the thousands of escort profiles and be able to pick out someone who matches their ultimate fantasy. It's also far too easy for them to get away with it. The sex industry is the biggest industry in the world so there are clearly a lot of people using these sorts of services. Very sad

As a class, women aren't in a glass house where sexual violence is concerned so what's your point?

You point, others pointed back. Get the point. Late at night, I know, but sheesh.

Ohnomoomoos , unfortunately men have always used prostitutes and treated women badly.

However, there did used to exist a different culture - a culture that was very repressive in lots of ways and has rightly been reformed since the Second World War, giving women and people of different sexual orientations rights. Nevertheless, this moral order established the family and romantic courtship as bulwarks to prevent moral anarchy. Taboos existed. Prostitution existed but it was not considered normal and acceptable. Extreme pornography existed underground, but even mild forms of nudity were illegal in mainstream society.

However, in the 1960's everything changed. An alliance of left wing sexual radicals and right wing market libertarians succeeded in destroying the family and the idea of monogamous love and duty that underpinned it. One by one sexual taboos were removed. Although the sexual revolution had been spearheaded by feminists, women became more commodified in this culture than ever before. Markets in prostitution, pornography, sex toys and expanded. This was not just a left wing revolution, but very much a right wing return to the cult of power and self-interest - a rejection of the secular ideal of a just society. Then in the 1990's came the fullest realisation of the liberal dream: the internet. A deregulated, global communication network meant pornography and other sex industries could be accessible to millions without the interference of governments. In this market, there are no taboos. Every desire or fetish, no matter how dark or barbaric, could be catered for in a few clicks. Rather than meet people in physical spaces where intimacy could be developed, people have become accustomed to choosing sexual partners from an array of options on a screen. This is similar to how a man might choose a prostitute, so many men who wouldn't have considered paying for sex before, go that extra step. After all 'if it feels good, do it' eh? Moral values, love and commitment play no part in this new world: only self-gratification.

I predict this will get worse. In time, it could be considered normal for people to watch the rape of children, or people being tortured and murdered, for pleasure. Technological aids such as sex robots and VR simulations of every kind of fantasy will also be seen as normal.

I don't mean to do the 'women do it too' thing, but I see no reason why at some point women will not use sex robots too, or enjoy sickening porn in equal numbers to men. The internet and technology will give women the freedom to do all the things that they haven't been given to do before, because they've been taught that women aren't like that. In the future they will have licence to be as sociopathic as men. It will just take time for them to catch up.

Monogamous love - having sex with someone because you care for them - will seem to the men and women of the future with their fuck buddies and fuck machines as archaic as the divine right of kings.

And an unenforceable contract cannot be enforced so, practically, what are you left with? Not much.

People in glass house shouldn't throw stones. Last time I checked women weren't paying fifty quid to shag a bloke who's been trafficked into the country, held against his will and forced to have sex with 100s of different people. Last time I look women weren't prowling around picking up vulnerable men often with addictions off the streets and paying them for sex.

There is absolutely no 'contract'.

As a class, women aren't in a glass house where sexual violence is concerned so what's your point?

Why does every thread about men turn into "well women do it too".

Because classes of people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

Men do not have a contract to buy sex. - ? You'd struggle to succeed at Court for breach of the terms and conditions, but a contract is effectively what you are left with.

That JB article is very old. I was quite involved in this area a few years ago and there were several studies which are basically showed that: there are various reasons why men would want to visit prostituted women but the reason they actually went ahead and did so was because the chances of them getting 'caught' were virtually nil (the prostituted women has a much higher risk of being caught because of the way we police the issue). All studies showed that if there was a reasonable chance they would be caught - and people knowing they had been, whether that be family or work or the general public - most would refrain from doing it. Ie if we policed according to the Nordic model demand would fall considerably.

Why does every thread about men turn into "well women do it too".

Yes women are capable of wrong doing but the actual crime figures speak for themselves. Besides anything else this is a thread about why men use prostitutes.

Men do not have a contract to buy sex. It is currently illegal to do so and given that most prostitutes are exploited and have little choice in the matter. There is no contract, using prostitutes is not an equal, level playing field.

Although both your and Cadno's responses speak volumes.

And yours don't ? - your views are far more dogmatic. Suppose there is always those to think the worst of

Anyway this has nothing at all to do with why men use prostitutes. Although both your and cadnos responses speak volumes.

Men use prostitutes because me live in an immoral, permissive society where such behaviour is normalised and the sex industry operating beyond the law. In a nutshell.

I am against prostitution by the way. Completely.

Why wouldn't there be women who are sexually attracted to children, animals and other deviant pornographic subjects? I don't see what's so hard to believe about it.

Are they quoting statistics or are they personally coming across more 'born female' offenders?

A person born female. A woman.

Yes, they must think they are entitled to make a contract to pay for sex - but not entitled otherwise.

user what does your family member mean by 'woman'?

For me, the important thing here is that the men that use prostitutes, they know that most of these women will be vulnerable. Whether they e been trafficked, are drug or alcohol dependent, desperate for money, yet they still do it.

Whether or not they want casual sex is irrelevant imo, let's not kid ourselves that 9 times out of 10 these women are being exploited.

You've got to wonder about a human being that's willing to not only use another human as a wank sack, but is willing to fuck somebody they know probably finds them repulsive, and where there's no mutual enjoyment.

You've got to ask yourself about a society where a man is so entitled to sex he will ejaculate into a woman at any cost.

I have it on the authority of a family member who sometimes works with CEOP. The incidence of women caught downloading sexual imagery children is going up. The increased availability of such material probably partly accounts for that though.

www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/551999/Women-sex-offenders-rise-Over-100-convicted-sex-crimes

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-19091796

should be 'contract'.

yet women don't act entitled to men's bodies

But these men don't have an entitlement to the prostitute's body either - that's why its a sex-for-money contact.

Anyway your reasoning makes no sense, because it would equally apply to women yet women don't act entitled to men's bodies.

No, because of patriarchy. Though they can do, and they will do increasingly as they gain more sexual power. The number of women committing sex crimes is going up. This is only to be expected. I suppose true equality will only be achieved when there are equal numbers of men and women feeling entitled to people's bodies.

I remember a guy coming out of an old housemates room years ago. "Is he a new fella?' I asked. 'Oh no, he's just a utility' she laughed.

The thing is (and we can argue about the reasons why all day long) is that this guy PROBABLY wouldn't have minded being described as utility, when a woman would...

Though, saying that, maybe he would have minded. We'll never know will we?

The whole idea of casual sex however is that people's sexual appetites are satisfied with the least possible effort - with 'no strings attached' as they say.

I disagree. This implies that relationships are just regular sex with lots of effort! Which admittedly many men seem to think. IMO casual sex is just about enjoying the sex without that needing to be in the context of a relationship. In much the same way as you might enjoy any activity with someone, without wanting to be in a romantic relationship with them. Not because it's too much effort but because there's just a whole load of different considerations.

Anyway your reasoning makes no sense, because it would equally apply to women yet women don't act entitled to men's bodies.