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That's a very interesting link. They talk about strangulation in the context of an abusive relationship. I've only skim read, but I can't see anywhere where they talk about it as part of a sex game.
However, this blurring of the lines between a sex game and straightforward violence, is very important. Given this report's findings that some men (not women) have a propensity for strangulation and choking generally, I'm wondering exactly how many women really like this kind of asphyxiation play during sex.
Surely, if anything, it's got to be something that has to be carried out incredibly gently, because of the high risks of injury?
I'm probably not explaining myself very well, but I get the feeling that even wanting to choke a woman during sex is an indication of the perpetrator's violent nature.
So sex games aside, a man who attempts to strangle a woman, does indeed indicate he has a propensity for violence. I wonder if the prosecution had bothered to read up on it, because the statistics are very persuasive.
These findings indicate that strangulation is a relatively prevalent form of violence toward women who experience physical violence in an abusive relationship (a finding consistent with the sparse literature on the subject) and is a significant predictor for future lethal violence.
Based on the health consequences noted by other researchers, and given that all incidents of strangulation could potentially result in death, it would appear logical that strangulation be prosecuted as a more serious crime than simple assault and battery
Idaho recently signed a bill into law (Senate Bill 1062-April 2005) that any person who willfully and unlawfully chokes or attempts strangulation of a household member, or a person with whom there was a dating relationship, guilty of a felony punishable by incarceration for up to fifteen (15) years. Importantly, no injuries are required to prove attempted strangulation and the prosecution is not required to show that the defendant intended to kill or injure the victim, the only intent required is the intent to choke or attempt to strangle.
Out of interest, I googled choking during sex and the very first website started like this:
Women enjoy being choked during sex. It turns them on and gives them more powerful orgasms.
Non qualification - just 'women'.
The website (which I stopped reading), then started to talk about how women like an alpha male, like someone to be dominant, and have rape fantasies.
So, I googled rape fantasies.
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201508/why-do-women-have-rape-fantasies%3Famp
Interestingly, the actual description of the rape is never given. It also asserts that a woman who has a rape fantasy does not want to be raped in real life (unsurprisingly).
It also says that one of the reasons for the fantasy could be a shame around the sexual urge, and being forced into sex takes away the guilt. Women shamed about wanting sex is another symptom of patriarchy.
I've read quite a few comments from men who claim women like rape fantasies, going on to entirely miss the point that this is just a fantasy.
It's used as justification for actually coercing someone.
Five seconds on the relationships board will tell anyone that coercing a woman into sex, however you do it, is the biggest turn off in history.
A display of mastery in the bedroom, Heathcliff style, is incredibly hard to pull off without looking like a complete wanker.
And something that men should realise is confined to a vanishingly small number of the male population. Not to mention, that at the first whiff of actual violence, women will run a mile.
Sorry, long post.
I could have just summed it up with God men just don't get do they? Whether they are the perpetrators the prosecution, the judge, or on the jury.