I don't this is coherent - choosing a gender isn't 'doing away' with gender.
I really hate this idea that gender is a spectrum. A spectrum would have the extremes of feminine and masculine at either end - where do we place stuff on this spectrum? Is lipstick more feminine than sewing? Are we going to separate kilts worn by men and kilts worn by women to different ends? Where is gardening?
Is it a points based system? Does shifting furniture in a dress even things out to the same as owning a Labrador?