Can anyone explain queer heterosexuality to me?

Lass Yeah I don't agree with that theory. DH and I discussed this a few weeks ago. He is not and cannot imagine being attracted to even the idea of having sex with a man. It does nothing for him, he just says he doesn't enjoy the thought of it and wouldn't enjoy the act.

I definitely don't think it's anything to do with being adventurous.

sorry, meant to add, the A is indeed for asexuals// agendered people

Why do people feel the need to describe themselves as anything? I've had relationships with men and women. I suppose that makes me bisexual but I don't feel the need to correct people if they assume I'm heterosexual if I'm in a relationship with a man
I'm married to DH and have had relationships with women. I'm more interested in men but fairly open minded. I used to identify as bi but found it seemed to end up with a massive focus on whether bi women are using bi as a half way to coming out as lesbian or really straight women trying to be cool.
Now I just don't really care. DH and and I are in a heterosexual marriage and it's nobody's business who I find attractive.

JugglingFromHereToThere the Q in the acronym hasn't consistently and historically meant queer, and was more often used for 'questioning'
the full acronym lgbtqia=
lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender, intersex, queer, and questioning people collectively
the plus can include pansexuals, polyamourous people, Skoliosexuals, and more.

stonewall has a very useful definition of ''queer", taken from odyssey;
' a term that encompasses individuals of varying gender and sexual identities. It is used in a positive manner in the LGBTQIA+ community since the acronym is long and complex. Referring to it as the "queer community" abbreviates that, but queer is also a reclaimed word. Using it in a positive manner? Typically acceptable. Using it in a derogatory and derisive manner and trying to defend using it that way by saying that the community does? Never okay'

Queer, intersexual (?) asexual (?) perhaps?

Someone mentioned that you couldn't be bisexual unless you've tried it, I'm not certain about that. At school, I remember most girls being straight even before they'd had sex, would this not be the case if you were bisexual? Is it not the fact that you have sexual feelings for both men and women?

I think it must be hard to wrap your head around if you've never had any attraction to both sexes

No that isn't hard. What is hard is this idea that we are all on the spectrum- that we are all a bit bi but it's just a lack of a sense of adventure or fear holding us back.

I love my DC and my relationship with But I don't identify with anything associated with motherhood, except in a strictly biological sense. I'm working through it though ...

Sorry but that seems as logical as the trans position of refusing to acknowledge the biological realities of what make up biological sex differences.

I'm interested to understand more about what the word "queer"would represent, the Q in LGBTQ +

And I see simply has a longer string of letters there ....... lgbtqia +

Anyone care to shed more light on the QIA and +

I do agree with an earlier response to a post of mine though, that people are people. You have to see the fundamentals we all have in common too.

I can understand why some bi people in male-female relationships/marriages identify as straight. It's a lot easier than facing the "if you're bi why are you with a man?" questions.

For me, I still identify as bi. I put bisexual on official forms, and if asked about sexuality I will say I'm bisexual and answer any subsequent questions. The way I see it, DH is still straight even though he's married to me, so I'm still bi even though I'm married to him.

I think it must be hard to wrap your head around if you've never had any attraction to both sexes.

I think you don't, simply. By these standards the umbrella has pretty much everyone in it. That's inclusion to the point of obsoletion

no, its inclusion of the whole lgbtqia* community. straight people are not queer people. end of. anyone else in the community is queer, although some prefer not to use the term.

its not to the point of obseletion as it creates a space where anyone in the community feels comfortable. i'm queer, i told people at pride yesterday that i was queer when asked, but i didn't feel the need to describe the ins and outs of my sexual preferences. its a word which can be used without judgement (parts of the community of the community are notoriously anti--lesbian for example)

I love my DC and my relationship with them. But I don't identify with anything associated with motherhood, except in a strictly biological sense

But you do identify with the main thing associated with motherhood, you just said it: you love your children and your relationship with them. I presume you also feed them, provide for them, teach them, clean up after them, drive them around, arrange their schooling, and a million other things associated with motherhood?

sorry, but you don't seem to understand the umbrella of the word queer

I think you don't, simply. By these standards the umbrella has pretty much everyone in it. That's inclusion to the point of obsoletion.

sorry, but you don't seem to understand the umbrella of the word queer.
its literally anyone who identifies on the lgbtqia+ spectrum. there's a large problem with bi and pan erasure, and therefore for you to say she shouldn't claim the world queer is damaging and erasing bi and pansexual identities

No idea about the friend in question but just because someone is in a heterosexual relationship and even gets married does not mean they are straight.

Why do people feel the need to describe themselves as anything? I've had relationships with men and women. I suppose that makes me bisexual but I don't feel the need to correct people if they assume I'm heterosexual if I'm in a relationship with a man

Actually I have no idea what people assume - I don't tend to discuss what box I fit in

As you can probably tell I use queer to describe myself (I'm bi but aromantic with women). Queer is a really nice way to describe myself. And I won't accept judgement from people who haven't even bothered to research

This was from a recent thread it sums up queer to me completely. The poster is basically saying they're bisexual but not in to women... which is straight last I checked. But the op was obv just a bigot for not researching queerness better

Im a vegetarian and I find it very annoying when pescatarians call themselves vegetarian as it confuses the hellnout of everyone and then I end up at an awkward dinner party with a sea bass in front of me and an annoyed host who wonders why I won't eat my 'vegetarian' dinner.

I wonder if that's what being a lesbian is like at the moment. A load of straight women calling themselves 'queer' while merrily sucking dick and confusing the issue for lesbians.

I agree that 'mother' comes with a whole heap of connotations. Some negative, some positive.

When I had to complete various mortgage forms which asked for occupation (I wasn't working then), I crossed out housewife (as it was termed then) and wrote mother, though. As I felt it more aptly described my role.

But when people start sentences with as a mother, I usually take it to mean they have experience of raising children which might be informative to the person they are speaking with.

This is a fascinating post, I'm so glad someone posted it because I've been confused about the seemingly straight people I know refer to themselves as queer. I also have a friend who describes herself as bi-sexual but hasn't actually 'done the do' with a woman. I have and the reality was very different to my imagined version (think I just imagined stroking Beyoncé's hair and nuzzling her thighs.) I now describe myself as straight, although maybe it was just those few woman that didn't really do it for me. If my friend hasn't experienced making love with a woman than how can she say she is into it? Is it to make herself sound interesting? If she really is bisexual then how come she's never experimented? I mean we're both in the goth scene, it wouldn't be that hard to find someone!

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OR also if you have legally adopted children, obviously)

But that is about marketing, and nothing at all with the actual label of being a mother. Have other people come out of your vagina? You're a mother.

Are we now claiming that motherhood is now a spectrum as well?

That would just be silly.

While "mother" has always had a part of its definition that was not biology (adoptive mothers are mothers, too, and usually called that) I do think we should rather fight to remove the sexist societal connotations that come with it than inventing silly names for the core meaningof the word - and the core meaning of "mother" is "person who gave birth to a child" - we use the same word for animals that don't even raise their young, and we also talk of companies being mothers and having daughters, something that involves creating something new, but does not involve any cooking, cleaning or housekeeping.