Why do so many people make excuses for rapists?

Society has been conditioned to think rapists are only outliers, weirdos etc. When the truth is 99% are normal men. Could be a husband, son, father, teacher etc. It makes it uncomfortable for everyone as it creates suspicion everywhere men are... ...despite being the truth.

That's exactly it tbh dj the way people acted made it so much worse tbh and allowed him to do a lot of other stuff to me. He was given a free pass because he'd 'always been a bit creepy' and that's just 'him'

I think DJBaggy's summed it up. Everyone knows that rape is bad and wrong, and done by twisted evil people. But then you have X, who's charming and good-looking, or Y, who's a pillar of the community. They're not twisted evil people therefore they can't possibly have done it or if they did do it then there was a good excuse, like drink, or confusing signals, or some such bollocks. It is depressing as hell.

I think one problem is that society and the press believe that 'real' rapists are evil monsters. The man your friends know isnt an evil monster, he's ordinary. Just like the rest of us. Therefore he cant be a rapist/child molester.

When I was raped we had mutual friends. The indifference was staggering, literally nobody gave a shit and continued to be friends with him. He has been accused of rape SIX times.
People pretend to be disgusted by rape but no one cares. I even saw one of these people write a post about how disgusting rape was after Seeing 13rw and how they could never defend a rapist. They convinced me not to go to the police. It's fucked but no one gives a shit in real life.