My ex is trans

Drugging children with no concern for long term effects

Have you read any of the billion trans threads?

They're about men in women's refuges, men barging women out and profiting in their place in professional sports, reinforcing shit gender stereotypes about women wearing feminine clothes, being sex objects etc etc etc

I'm new to MN and new to this trans issue, but I can't believe this Danielle person, am genuinely shocked and evidently a bit naive

Chamomiletea

If your ex was uncomfortable about their penis, she has gender dysphoria. What, in old money, we called a transsexual.

Unfortunately, the term transgender now includes a vast array of other people, including confused teenagers, gender nonconforming people, and cross dressing fetishists.

It's the latter that are more of a threat to women. They retain their genitalia and remain attracted to women.

They are also the ones shouting the loudest and want the laws changed so that they are legally women and have full access to everything previously reserved for women, including bathrooms, locker rooms, rape refugees, shelters, scholarships, sports events.

The change in the law would mean that anyone who identifies as a woman could claim the above. It is happening already. Danielle Muscato for instance is taking a space in a women's refuge and on International Women's Day sent a tweet ending in suck my dick.

This is what women have almighty problem with.

Your ex may be the kindest, most gentle person alive, but they are still a misogynists. They are trying to take she,girl, women and female away from us. I don't want women hating men defining what it is to be female.

Sorry, nice *person. Wasn't trying to be hurtful.

I'd defend your Wix's right to live as she wants, and call her her preferred pronouns too.

As a pp says, the conflict comes from an attempt to redefine woman legally and linguistically, to the detriment of women.

I think this is probably the most common position among people who are transgender critical, but it's often (deliberately?) misunderstood.

The debate is about the meaning of words and concepts like "woman," "girl," and "female", and the implications of redefining and repurposing these words to the extent that they are rendered meaningless in law, statistics, reporting, sports, health care, and safe spaces like refuges and locker rooms.

The debate is not about whether your ex is a nice guy. It's about the hard-won rights of women and how not to lose them all.

That's one individual. Sadly trans activists are a different kettle of fish: harassing lesbians into unwanted sexual contact, inventing unwanted hurtful names for women & their body parts such as 'cis' 'terf' and 'front hole', turning Feminism into a platform for their very different set of problems, and complaining about discrimination when actual women try to have conversations about childbirth and menstruation, invading women's safe spaces rather than demanding their own and opening the door for any bloke with a penchant for dresses to follow suit. Perhaps your well meaning ex could have a word with these people?