How can I reconnect with feminism?

Whoever asked for a summary of everyday feminism. This is the best I can do. It's from their staff page.

Mind you it has improved as I've done this before and they had a few people who identifies as "cis" so either they realised people hate the term and stopped using it or they got rid of them.

Also the founder used to refer to herself as a "boi". That's no longer in the bio (boio?)
everydayfeminism.com/about-ef/about-the-team/

Robin Tran is a Social Media Associate for Everyday Feminism. She is a Vietnamese transgender lesbian comedian and blogger

Shae Collins. In her spare time, she tries her luck with aerial pole dance moves

Alan Pelaez Lopez is a quirky, gender non-conforming, Afro-Indigenous poet from Mexico City

Ray Finch Queer, non-binary, transgender, and chronically ill, (they pronouns)

Riley J. Dennis – polyamorous, atheist, gender non-binary transwoman

Sam Dylan Finch - transman

Josette Souza - latinx female pronouns

Andrew Hernández latinx male pronouns

Caleb Luna "is a fat, brown queer" They pronouns.

Jennifer Loubriel latinx female pronouns.

Jessica Xiao female pronouns.

Jon Greenberg appears to be a white man but they're using him on a feminist page to discuss the opening of racial dialogues.

Justin Hubbell is a genderqueer cartoonistwith they pronouns.

Katherine DM Clover female pronouns, refers to herself as a mother.. can I hope she might actually identify as a human female?

Vanessa Rochelle Lewis is the Senior Editor at Everyday Feminism. She is a queer, lush-bodied, Black, femme performance artist

Melissa A. Fabello – Managing Editor her research focus is on women with anorexia nervosa and the bodied phenomenon of skin hunger

Nikia Poché is a radical, Black, sexually fluid, androgynous, visionary, racial and social justice activist

Maisha Z. Johnson is the Digital Content Associate and Staff Writer of Everyday Feminism. She’s a queer black writer

Marina Watanbe identifies as mixed-race Japanese-American, a bisexual woman of color, a feminist, and a Gryffinclaw.

Ginny Brown is a writer, sexuality educator, and birth worker. Her first decade of adulthood was spent making the journey from “homeschooled conservative Christian” to “queer polyamourous humanist.”

Madeleine Slade is a cartoonist and illustrator living near New York City. As an anxious bisexual non-binary feminist with Tourette’s Syndrome. They pronouns.

K is a Canadian, non-binary, genderqueer, peoplequeer, mentally ill, critical feminist robot they prnouns.

xoài phạm is a Vietnamese femme. They are tender and dangerous. They love mangos. They have places to be and people to scare. Read their articles here.

Ronnie Rene Ritchie they pronouns and an unfortunate nana jumper.

Michón Neal has so many identities, they won’t fit here. Ze writes a mix of scifi, fantasy, erotica, and autobiography called cuil fiction about unique people in unique circumstances, with characters running the gamut of non-monogamous and LGBTQIA+ spectrums. Zir/ze pronouns. Zi has some fucking issues

Great description of EF, Ilmet.

JoanRamone, actually, it was through Naomi's book, I got into feminism in the first place. And tbh, I have found plenty of support for SAHMing on this board. If you want to read more on the subject, try Vanessa Olorenshaw's Liberating Motherhood.

Assassinated - I am tying myself in knots here trying to say what I actually mean! I think for some feminists, celebrating the "unique" role of a mother (she's in favour of mothers being at home with children where possible as well) would be seen as gender essentialist and basically encouraging women to give up paid careers in order to raise children and thus lose financial independence. Not all feminists obviously!

And I really didn't phrase my last post well. I really just didn't want to turn it into a trans thread by saying that I feel a kinship with other biological women.

Why would writing about motherhood be the antithesis of feminism? I'm not an academic feminist at all, but I didn't think that feminism has a dislike of motherhood at all? Maybe I'm mistaken though.

I just wanted to expand on my praise for Naomi Stadlen as I know for some she would be the antithesis of feminism as she writes about the unique role of motherhood. I believe that anyone can be a good parent so I certainly don't have any issue with single parent families, or families with gay parents etc. Nor do I buy into any Madonna complex ideas around women and motherhood. However, as a new mum I found reading Stadlen really powerful as it gave me a sense of validation that when I was "just" sitting at home with a newborn all day, what I was doing was really important. And whilst I think men should be more involved and equal when it comes to childcare than say my grandad's generation were, I still feel a massive amount of respect and kinship for all the women in history and all over the world, who have been through pregnancy, childbirth, raising a small child. I'm genuinely sorry if that offends anyone, and of course I realise there are lots of other types of families, children are adopted, not everyone can have families etc and I have huge respect and empathy for anyone's situation, but as controversial as it may be, I do feel a particular connection to other women who have been through the same experience as me. I wish it was ok to say that!

Apologies in case there is a time lapse effect since I began typing (interrupted by breakfast and school run), and someone has already made this point, but I just felt moved to elaborate on Empress' explanation of Everyday Feminism. It is indeed a site that is very misogynistic, but which masquerades as feminist (hence the name) under the guise of liberal feminism and intersectionality. Worth knowing as it is a site which is likely to pop up quite quickly during a Google search for any number of current feminist issues. Contributors to Everyday Feminism write articles which can lead you to believe that, as a woman of a second wave persuasion, you are ignorant and misled at best and a bigot and a TERF at worst. In my mind, EF are actually dangerous and represent the worst kind of thought-policing, isolation and no-platforming of dissenting views. They are militant and fundamentalist. But somehow manage to speak to millions of achingly conscientious young people whose efforts to compensate for their privilege leads them to accept this stuff. There are also numerous Facebook groups who toe the same line, and it's worth knowing what you're looking at before you get suckered in.

I'm also unsure where I "fit". As a teenager I read The Female Eunuch and The Whole Woman amongst others, and they resonated with me and as a mother I found Naomi Stadlen brilliant. I find that amongst my peers the primary feminist concerns are around intersectionality and making sure everything is inclusive and this can sometimes feel a bit like anything can be framed as "but what about this person who is even more oppressed?" I feel awful for saying that because I really genuinely care about people from different backgrounds to me, but I think that women in all walks of life need feminism.

For example I think it's ok to say "women's careers often suffer due to maternity". In my opinion there are lots of issues here: societal expectations around maternity/paternity leave, expectations around going part-time and the subsequent impact on careers, the cost of childcare, the lack of value society places on child-rearing, the judgments from society on women whether they work OR stay at home... I could go on. Those issues really matter to me and I believe they have a huge impact on women and hinder any chance of equality, but I feel like with my more vocally feminist friends (I'm 30 and the only one of my friends to have children btw) they have to cut in to remind me to "check my privilege" in some way as if I'm some kind of myopic princess living in an ivory tower with my trivial concerns whereas they are at the cutting edge of feminism because they use all the right terms.

I believe we need to recognise the difference in biology between the sexes and look for ways to stop those differences from disadvantaging women. I believe that gender should be unimportant but also that "stereotypically male" shouldn't then be the aim of a more neutral society. So whilst ultimately I would like males and females to be able to be whoever they want without gender stereotypes, I do think that for that to happen we need to first raise the status of stereotypically female jobs, hobbies and attributes so that they are on a par with male ones.

Where that leaves me in current feminist thought I don't know!

I'd say that the concept of gender itself is anti-feminist.

IMO the feminist view would be that the only differences between women & men are biology & socialisation, & that the concepts of male / female personalities / brains / souls / gender identities / however you like to put it are sexist & limiting.

If someone has body dysphoria severe enough that they feel they need surgery that's another matter, but it doesn't change their biological sex.

"My own views on the topic don't closely align with those of other, more outspoken feminists of my generation,"
So speak out.

Chemicalromance as a feminist younger than yourself it reassures me to read you don't agree with the stance of many feminists of my/your generation on trans issues. There are some more of us out there...and you certainly can be and are a feminist.

I think Everyday Feminism would be better named Everyday Misogyny. It is a site which is actively against women.

A fantastic collection, Bertrand!

Ooh while we are discussing Twitter can I recommend Sister Outrider? Also Glosswitch and JK Rowling

Smashed- I love your tiles!

Thank you Amy. Another on for the collection!

And Karen Ingala Smith is magnificent.

OP- can I suggest a few people to follow on Twitter? They are quite a mixture and I don't always agree with them all- in fact I sometimes violently disagree, but I always have an opinion! Caroline Criardo Perez. Laurie Penny. Mary Beard. Magdalen Berns.Caitlin Moran.
Emma Kennedy. Hadley Freeman.Josie Long.Manwhohasitall. I could go on!
I assume you've read Margaret Atwood?

Dh was caressing his cookbook collection. Suddenly, they slipped sideways, squeezing a tub of ho chocolate (Green&Blacks) into a death grip from which it could escape in one direction only.

Its arc must have been a thing of some beauty.

It was not to blame and has been returned to its spot.

I first came across Hannah Witton on BBC Breakfast and since then have from time to time listened to her YouTube videos. It reminds me that although some progress has been made since I was her age in the 80s, there is a lot more to be done.

You only have to read some of the threads here on Mumsnet and the women trapped in horrific relationships to realise the need for feminism still exists.

Honestly I am not dismissing it. I started being leched at by grown men aged about 12 so I do understand. Now I am 40, and mostly invisible, which is liberating. I also feel stronger to deal with stuff like that if it doe arise, which is why picking on young girls is so awful. I guess I just meant that as you get older and life gets more complicated other aspects of feminism come to the fore.

I do find that the emphasis on cat calling and sexual harassment in ; Yes, I used to have men yelling stuff at me on the street, yes it wasn't nice, but now i'm older it doesn't feel like the main issue for me

I know you followed this with "it all matters" but I just had to respond to this. I hate people dismissing street harassment. It is horrendous, intimidating and entirely intended to assert dominance over women and girls. First time I experienced it as I've posted on this board before some months ago was in my school uniform just walking to school one morning, from the Tube station to school, from a well spoke n adult male in a suit who probably lives his day to day life ostensibly normally. Didn't stop him from touching me and telling me I'd "tempt many boys". I will never forget this and though I know "worse" happens, street harassment is a regular reminder to women and girls of our value to society. Only this afternoon when walking to meet friends I saw two clearly young teenage girls harassed by two grown men in a car and it infuriated me.