How can I reconnect with feminism?

Now, Ferdinand, which of those two scenarios do you honestly think is more likely, consideration towards non trans women reading, or a "no boring cises here" policy?a

Actually there's a third possibility, the cissies were so right on they eventually realised they must be 'non binary'

I am really enjoying a recent bio of Mary Wollstonecroft. Thinking about her is getting me through Brexit.

I think she is my all time hero/heroine/whatever.

What I like about historical viewpoints is that they help you see later things in context. So, for instance, we usually sneer at Dickens novels where the most shocking thing that can happen is for a rich woman to be assaulted whereas poor women are assaulted all the time without much comment. But then you look 50 years back and you realise that the Victorians were making progress (of a sort) compared with Wollstonecroft's time.

I find a historical context useful too when I look at offputting technical language/theories. Most theories are easier to understand if you figure out what it is they are reacting against/trying to refine.

It is narcissism writ large.

Incidentally, do EF do a "Healing from Toxic Femaleness to Better Centre Transwomen" course? They should.

It really is Orwellian isn't it? "Everyday Feminism" is neither feminism nor everyday stuff.

Has anyone taken their course to heal from their toxic whiteness?

"The total lack of mention of the woman who would actually become pregnant is genuinely chilling, as you say."

It really is. It's this denial of basic facts in favour of this illusion of and desire for womanhood. Same as trans women getting pissed because vaginas and uteruses were focussed on at the women's march.

It's weird because they defend their use of words like 'woman' and 'pregnant' and 'biological' by claiming they're just widening the definition, and all language changes and evolves etc. And yet the reason they're using these words is because they want the original definition applied to them... If being pregnant genuinely meant contributing sperm, they wouldn't be interested in claiming to be pregnant. They want the original meaning to be applied to them, but when challenged because it can't apply to them, there's all this twisting and broadening to get it to fit.

venusinscorpio

That entire thing is a misogynistic narcissists wet dream. It just screams nutjob.

It seems EF is run by and for transwomen.

Can anyone tell me if it was always like that? Has it been hijacked, or was it started with that purpose in mind?

"and become pregnant"... really not what happens is it? The total lack of mention of the woman who would actually become pregnant is genuinely chilling, as you say. Women are just incubators.

Handmaid's Tale.

What this means is that trans women who stop taking HRT for a few months can reverse sterilization and become pregnant with viable sperm.

I find this piece utterly chilling. Because you know there is an invisible female surrogate involved who isn't mentioned, even that she is the body being made pregnant, gestating and giving birth. Not the males.

Mind you it has improved as I've done this before and they had a few people who identifies as "cis" so either they realised people hate the term and stopped using it or they got rid of them.

Now, Ferdinand, which of those two scenarios do you honestly think is more likely, consideration towards non trans women reading, or a "no boring cises here" policy?

And yeah, the EF Pan-Faith Agnostic-Curious Winter Holiday Gathering. Fun!

And [men]don't want to. They either don't understand that they have to, don't want to, or think it's up to women to do it

No, in the main they don't want to.
I guess because deep down they know that if they make themselves financially and emotionally more vulnerable, they might get taken advantage of.
Because, however much men might protest that women have nothing to moan about, they know full well we got the shitty end of the stick.

Nutjobs. Can you imagine the Christmas party?
urgh. Do I have to?

I think by "reproductive justice" they mean women's reproductive rights, as in being able to end our pregnancy safely, or not be pregnant in the first place (which are issues women face in the states).

Those should be put aside for peen problems. Obviously. Reproductive help for women who can't afford it is on no one's radar.

"you might not wonder why there's no fucking feminism on their feminist page. It's all men or people who want to be men."

Beautifully put Ferd
Nutjobs. Can you imagine the Christmas party?

And why in Earth would we feel the need to "center transwomen" in our quest for an elusive quest for "reproductive justice" even if such a concept actually existed?

It doesn't btw, as anyone who has TTCed and failed can confirm.

Ferdinand's link

I shouldn't laugh at other people's painful delusions but I properly guffawed at this person saying it was possible for a transwoman to get pregnant because their sperm was found to be viable.

No, you dimwit. That person produces sperm amd has male genitalia. There is no way in this world or next that they will be pregnant with that sperm or any other, because they don't have the necessary organs and that is why only women can ever get pregnant. Not men. Not transwomen.

And that is not hate speech, transphobia, or whatever pearl-clutchy faux-indignant nonsense you will come up because you can't bear to hear basic biology.

It is basic biology.

"fatherhood has to be valued too, not in the traditional way, but as a caring role that men prioritise."
Absolutely. The frustrating thing about being a feminist is that in some ways women have done everything they can- men now have to do their bit. And they don't want to. They either don't understand that they have to, don't want to, or think it's up to women to do it. Men could, for example, stop hitting women, stop using prostitutes, stop using porn and start taking on a reasonable share of childcare and housrhold tasks now. Today. 12.31 on April 4, 2017.

Don't they just sound like the actual worst people to be stuck at a party with?

It's real, they just think they're being clever with it. And unless you really pay attention to who is writing for that publication you might not wonder why there's no fucking feminism on their feminist page. It's all men or people who want to be men.

Oh also THIS is EF in a nut shell.

everydayfeminism.com/2015/11/trans-women-reproductive-justice/

Thank You Ferdinands
Wow.
Is that...real? Or satire??
It seems to me like rampant individualism gone haywire, all this identifying as whatever you feel like that seems to be what passes for politics these days. My feminism is definitely more rooted in the actual everyday.

Thinking about what Joan said about motherhood/feminism. I think that when you have babies and toddlers something does kick in that speaks to the maternal being in you, and makes it feel OK when you stay home being all nurturing., Thing is, that does (ime) wear off somewhat, and you look around ten years later and wonder why all the men your age are so much richer than you..
I think the best thing for women is a value placed on the men's parenting, and an expectation that men will take time off, go part-time, clean up vomit etc. Yes, motherhood is a bond between women, and that's lovely, but fatherhood has to be valued too, not in the traditional way, but as a caring role that men prioritise. That would be my ideal anyway (yeah keep dreaming !)

Going back to street harassment - this is a really good blog post from Sian Norris about how 'minor' street harassment isn't that minor at all and how it can change the way you think, the way you act, your self-confidence and how women's worlds become a lot narrower.

On being a woman, on her own, at night

Sweat the small stuff.

Now, what's missing? go one I'll give you one guess.

finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2009/10/19/rape-culture-101/

Rape culture is the myriad ways in which rape is tacitly and overtly abetted and encouraged having saturated every corner of our culture so thoroughly that people can’t easily wrap their heads around what the rape culture actually is.

Chemicalromance, you have demonstrated rape culture in action on this very thread by your dismissing of its existence in the UK.

You might want to think about that.