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Dr Tanya Byron ignoring gendered violence

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MrsToddsShortcut · 14/03/2017 10:42

Apologies for the paywall, it's The Times. I'm genuinely gobsmacked that Tanya is totally overlooking the bullying a teenage girl is receiving at the hands of a another kid, despite the fact that it's physical assault.

Yes, bullies have issues and yes this child need support, but the poor bullied girl is basically being told to suck up the physical and emotional bullying because the other child's feelings are more important. She's being set up for a lifetime of toxic relationships where she is walked all over, unless the adults in her life help her to recognise that the other child's bullying is absolutely not her responsibility.

I can't believe Tanya Byron gave this advice!

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/tanya-byron-my-granddaughters-transgender-friend-is-bullying-her-pm7mnj8hp

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TitaniasCloset · 14/03/2017 11:19

Once again transgender issues trump any one else's issues.

How about teaching the child who is bullying that its not acceptable and that other teenagers have problems too? Teach some bloody empathy rather than let him use his physical strength and special snowflake status to hurt his friend.

Datun · 14/03/2017 11:18

"Your granddaughter needs to be able to depersonalise the comments"

Fuck off with this shit! The very epitome of victim blaming.

WrongTrouser · 14/03/2017 11:15

TB's response is one of the most chilling things I've read in relation to this issue. Horrifying.

The bullying needs to be understood as coming from a place of vulnerability

nb Anyone who doesn't subscribe to The Times can sign up and read a couple of articles free.

CloverCannot · 14/03/2017 11:13

I generally read rather than post on here, but having gone to the link, I feel too angry not to say something.

There is no concern for this young girl at all. Nothing. "Strengthen her resilience and reserve"? Yes, she'll need it Angry

TitaniasCloset · 14/03/2017 11:12

Oh for fucks sakes. A 15yr old girl is being physically assaulted and verbally abused by a genetic teenage boy and is being told to suck it up and be more understanding. The psychologist uses it as an opportunity to have a rant about transgender and show how with it she is.

Should we just give up now and find a remote island to live on away from society?

Yes it is going to get worse.

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MrsToddsShortcut · 14/03/2017 11:10

Exactly. There is no way Byron would have written this response to a boy. But girls? They exist to hoover up the existential angst of others. Being physically assaulted? Never mind - the other kid has it much worse than you! Just let them get on with it. Help them through!

I am SO angry about this.

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DJBaggySmalls · 14/03/2017 11:07

Jaw on floor.
Suck it up women, its going to get a lot worse from here on Angry

humourless · 14/03/2017 10:59

Trans not trans, boy/girl whatever.... there's no reason why any child should put up with being bullied.

My daughter is being bullied by a girl in foster care, now whilst we can all see her pathways to bullying and how her self esteem is on the floor it's not my child's place to enable her bullying.

Datun · 14/03/2017 10:58

"...your granddaughter provides a safe place in which to project the distress because she is loyal and less likely to abandon her friend, who may also be testing out their female identity against hers."

Good Lord. This takes the bloody biscuit. Nothing about protecting this girl's boundaries, nothing about how she is being bullied and how to tackle it. Paragraph after paragraph about how she needs to shut the fuck up and let the transgirl do it because the transgirl is 'vulnerable'.