Help me raise my girls right

Sorry i dont mean to harp on about him you asked about raising girls however this man is in their life he needs to quit his sexist crap.

Oh yuck, dump him OP he's a pig.

He is serious it really needs nipping in the bud asap. Say to him are mean so weak that they can't control themselves

Also worried about the message your DP is sending them (and you!)

I raised girls they are pretty decent women that respect themselves and know what is and isn't appropriate attention yes to the no kissing aunty if they dont want to no hugging anybody if they dont want to also their own boundry is important . The attitude of your partner is unsettiling what is he going to say if your dds decide to wear a short skirt or maybe a top low when they are teenagers? No girl or woman deserves to be groped. I was assaulted by a (then) friend i was drunk he was walking me home apparently that was an invatation and I was naive he got a swift kick but this behaviour did go on when i was younger too .

I think your partners victim blaming attitude definitely needs addressing, that's a very damaging idea to be brought up with as it perpetuates the myth that women are responsible for the abusive actions of men. I'm not sure I could be with someone who thinks like that, it's awful. Are you serious about him? I'd be tempted to ditch him to be honest, he doesn't sound like a good role model.

I think the message that their bodies are their own has to start early and in a non-sexual way. So seemingly trivial things like never forcing them to kiss or hug auntie Gladys if they don't want to, only tickling them at their request and stopping immediately they ask, getting health care professionals to ask before touching them, allowing them privacy in the bathroom, knocking on bedroom doors (my DS is possibly a bit older - age 8 - obviously with teeny tiny children you'll be in the bathroom with them, but once they start expressing a need for privacy, respect that).

And you're going to have to have a word with your partner about his "what do you expect if you go out dressed like that?" attitude - that has to be knocked on the head way before they're adolescents. Because part of adolescence is pushing boundaries and exploring your sexuality, including dressing up in ways that (usually mistakenly when I think back to my horrendous outfits from my teens) you think are sexy to attractive boys - this doesn't mean you want to be leched over by seedy older men, nor does it give those seedy older men any excuse for doing so. if your partner persists in this rather stone-age attitude to women's clothes he will damage their sense of their own boundaries.

I raised several DDs who are now happy young adults. They just need to be nurtured in a way that fosters self-respect - they then know what is appropriate and what is not.