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Longing, longing for female only spaces

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hangry · 09/01/2017 23:10

I mean i like males and that, got a male partner and two of my kids are boys. i work in a heavily male dominated field and i'm usually the only female in the room. It's never been a problem for me.

but lately i just find myself longing for a space away from the male male bullshit. the coming on a feminist forums and spouting arrogant needy so so self assured so so missing the point crap from every hole. the constant need to be right, to be praised, to get a pat on the head and a cookie. the unquestioning belief that you'll be listened to and respected because of course you will. cos you know, male.

with the testicles of objectivity and all that jazz.

and no, not just here, tho yes here too. but everywhere. everywhere online, below the line is hell cos of the menz.

i want to hang out with females but i don't know how to :(

thinking about writing some kind of app or website, invite only, double vetted females only for chatting and organizing events. think i'd probably be burnt as a witch if i did tho.

sorry, kind of lost my point along the way there somehow.

female spaces. are there any? where? what?

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hangry · 10/01/2017 08:51

may have been in a ranty mood last night but it does just get a bit wearing. all my hobbies and stuff are kind of 'male' interests but WI that's something i hadn't thought of.

it's not that i don't want to be around males, or that i don't like them or am sometimes interested in what they have to say, i just crave a tiny bit of space away from them!

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CharlieSierra · 10/01/2017 08:36

For instance, when every other post on a thread is by a bloke, you'd think they might realise they were taking up a disproportionate amount of air time, but, no... apparently the thread is all about them

Catching up this morning I thought this exact thing. It's tedious beyond belief.

Not sure what the answer is, my RL feminist group has males in it too. Hmm

VikingVolva · 10/01/2017 08:28

You need to join groups which verify registration details.

And, going further, you could set up yourself the group you wish existed.

Personally I prefer open sites, such as this one; but there's definitely scope for all sorts to co-exist on the web.

SpeakNoWords · 10/01/2017 08:27

The Facebook suggestion would probably provide what you're thinking of. You'd be able to control who is a member of the group, and keep it a secret group too if you want.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 10/01/2017 08:06

the coming on a feminist forums and spouting arrogant needy so so self assured... the constant need to be right, to be praised, ... the unquestioning belief that you'll be listened to and respected because of course you will. cos you know, male.

Sounds more like a mumsnet feminist than any of the males I know tbh.

M0stlyHet · 10/01/2017 07:58

I know what you mean, hangry. For instance, when every other post on a thread is by a bloke, you'd think they might realise they were taking up a disproportionate amount of air time, but, no... apparently the thread is all about them.

theaveragewife · 10/01/2017 07:58

Cakes, crafts and mothering....ah the options we have......

DeviTheGaelet · 10/01/2017 07:53

I read it that hangry meant a female only group to discuss stuff. Maybe a feminist group.

Megatherium · 10/01/2017 07:45

There are loads of female only groups around, it really isn't hard to find them. Look at virtually any textile-related crafting group or class, for instance.

G1raffePicnic · 10/01/2017 07:42

Guiding and wi are the only 2 I can think of! Many book groups end up being so, and mother and toddler groups. But that's kind of niche...

DeviTheGaelet · 10/01/2017 07:40

Yes hangry I agree
Facebook may be the way to go.