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Public marriage proposals

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ki0kA · 08/01/2017 22:44

From time to time, we see on the news a man making a marriage proposal to his girlfriend in some event. I've reflected about that subject and I believe there are three kind of men who do that:

1 - Men who are well intentioned and want to make a surprise to their girlfriends that they think they will like and feel special;

2 - Men who do it basically to show off and have their 15 minutes of fame, so to speak;

3 - Men who are afraid that their girlfriends won't want to marry them and, by making their marriage proposal publicly, they will force them to accept, because all those people who are watching are waiting for the "right" answer (yes) and if she says "no", all people will think "poor guy, he made her such a beautiful surprise and she said no. How can she be so cruel?"

So what's your opinion about this? Do you agree with any of those categories I've mentioned? None of the above? What do you think about public marriage proposals?

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bearfishdoodle · 09/01/2017 10:51

I don't get the whole proposal thing at all tbh. It's a life partnership, why not discuss it like adults instead of waiting for one partner to decide its time? (I also hate surprises.)

WhiskyChick · 09/01/2017 10:49

Honestly I can't imagine anything worse. Always think it's a bit sad that some people prefer massive displays of attention, it's like they're making up for something missing in their lives.

Surprise parties are another thing I just can't bear the thought of. Maybe I'm just a weirdo!

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 09/01/2017 10:40

I don't like public proposals at all, for the reasons you have provided. I can't imagine ever being pleased to receive one. I hate surprises and the decision to marry should be based on mutual discussion not sprung on one party.

SweetGrapes · 08/01/2017 23:31

Hell yes. The only person I know personally who did this was a massive control freak. I can totally see his fiance on the relationship boards in a few years! Sad

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