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MRAs

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girlwiththeflaxenhair · 01/01/2017 10:13

This has maybe already been posted but couldn't find anything.

I've been trying to learn more about feminism and mens rights/anti feminists/mgotw/whatever and had a question or thought. Probably not an original one by any means.

It seems to me that a large part of the MRA agenda is driven by a feeling of rejection, they feel that women are the gatekeepers of sex and that if a woman wont have sex with them, but will with other men, that is a direct message that the other man is better than them.

Leaving this rather ugly stuff to one side for now, it seems like for this army of bitter young men to exist, there must be a corresponding number of young women who are single. Either that, or all the young women are going after the same "alpha" type males (I think this is the explanation that would be accepted in the MRA sphere)

I then started looking at whether there really were more single men than women, and it seems there are at the age a lot of these men seem to be (I assume most of them to be 25 or below?). However once you get to over 45 there are many more single women than men.

So how can this be ? The only explanation I can come up with is that it is more common for young women to date older guys that the other way around. Looking around at my own friendship group there are a few age gaps of 10 years plus with younger women/older man - I don't know any the other way around.

Is anyone interested in discussing this ? Are age gap relationships more common now than they used to be ?

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OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 01/01/2017 11:57

It's interesting that you posted this because I was looking at the prevalence of age gap relationships just the other day. Over 10% of marriages had grooms more than 10 years older than brides, and a further 15% had grooms between 5 - 10 years older than brides. That's in the U.K., instinctively I'd say that trend is likely to be greater in countries with fewer opportunities for women.

In terms of the "lack of women for young men" trend - this is causing significant issues in parts of the world where femicide abortion has resulted in far too few women. It's been suggested by many military thinkers, philosophers and even modern day politicians that young men either need to get married or find a "higher purpose" which ties them to society to stop them being a destructive force in their teens and twenties.

In history, military, religious and political leaders have used this to their own ends. MRAs seem to be the consequence of when that doesn't happen in a modern, western democracy.

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