Agreed, Olenna
I spent several happy decades, puttering along, noticing more women in public life, more women in positions of authority etc etc and thought, good stuff, things are trotting along in the right direction. Then I started to observe that if it comes down to a straight choice between a male minority and women, as with the Cologne business, as with this, women are supposed to lie back and think of other people's needs and wants first.
In other words, return to being quiet and 'good' and putting up and shutting up. It's as if women fight for their rights, and eventually get them, but can't rely on hanging onto to them.
It's depressing.