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what are you teaching your girls?

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gillybeanz · 17/11/2016 13:59

Hello, I rarely venture on these boards for fear that people will vilify me for being a sahm for so long. I'm working now as it suits me and family to do so.
So with this in mind I always used to think that I hadn't set dd a good work ethic (nor her brothers), how would they grow up? Had I done them a disservice by not working.

I'm sure it's about what you teach your children than rather what you do yourself.
Both my ds and dd can cook, do housework inc laundry and ironing.
They can work together as a team to get chores done. In fact the boys are older and much better than dd.

Anyway, I have managed to raise a dd who questions everything traditionally male, especially within music which is her chosen career.
She has made such a fuss and called teachers sexist for not allowing her to audition for the solo popular Christmas song usually sung by a choir boy, that they let her go for it and she got it. Grin Her view, why can't a girl do it?

My point is due to so many women pushing through glass ceilings and having great careers, something I've never been interested in for myself I believed people when they said I wasn't setting a good example to my dd and worried about her future.
I really needn't have worried she is doing fine, just like many other girls/ women joining male dominated professions.
I know there is still a fight to be won in some industries/ vocations, but does anybody else feel that today's girls are finding it easier than we did and questioning more often?

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gillybeanz · 17/11/2016 14:18

Thanks, yes the type of thing.
I suppose I've always been active in telling all of them they can do whatever they want to and not to let barriers of gender stop them.
My ds2 did ballet dancing for a while, but unfortunately stopped because it was considered girly. He's early twenties, so this was about 15 years ago now. I hear of other boys sticking it out now and feel this is much better.

The same with girls joining previously male only/ male dominated activities.
girls can now go to Beavers, Scouts, Cadets, rather than The Girls Brigade as previous.

I wonder whether it's something that parents just do now without thinking about it, have we accepted there is no difference between girls and boys in most things now?

ISay
I did get some stick in Feminism before, but I know it's a small minority and most people on here are lovely.

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ISaySteadyOn · 17/11/2016 14:09

gillybeanz, I am a SAHM atm and in all honesty, I have found more support for that here than elsewhere so I doubt you will be vilified.

As to our girls, I have two DDs and one DS. I don't know if they have it easier, but I do know that DH and I try very hard to normalise that there aren't really girls' things and boys' things, just things people like or don't like.

My dyspraxia has actually been a benefit in stereotype breaking as due to it, DH does the sewing and nail cutting in our house.

Not sure if that is what you were looking for, but that is our experience.