Ive recently split from my DH with two young DDs. It's been a long time coming (he's a drinker, EA and recently lost his temper and threw things at me)
I have a thread in relationships if anyone wants the details.
My DH was always insistent that in his experience, children of single parent families always ended up 'messed up' and he didn't want his kids to be like that. Personally, I can't say I've noticed, as long as relations between parents are good and kids interests put first then surely that's better than being brought up in an abusive relationship between parents?
As I get through this break up, I'm getting angrier and angrier and now I'm wondering if this is all just a lie in our patriachal society to keep women in shitty relationships with shitty men??? Am I missing something? It seems really obvious. But I stuck it out and took advice and let myself be treated terribly 'for the kids' because a broken home would be really bad for them. I've just swallowed this as a fact for so long, I'm only now questioning it.
Does anyone have any experience, advice or even reading material that can help me with this?